Fighting windmills? No time to do good stuff, let alone great stuff?

I just learned something terrible about myself. A lot of people hear me as if I were their father.

You see, in my family I was the dunce… meaning stupid. And even though I had straight A grades, and I was good at everything I tried, I remained stupid for my family.

How this works I don’t know. But this seems to be the dynamic: people make a decision about you, and then they never really look at you again.

You take it on, as the truth, and freeze into it. You allow it to guide you through life.

With me it was a little different, because I am defiant. I am not defiant to the person who speaks it, I am defiant to the saying. I am going to prove them wrong.

My brother, my older brother was the

Want to be the one who is making the decisions in your life?

back-to-the-future-2This week has been a success for Life, and a disaster financially. Everyone was spending their money on turkey, I guess.

So I am going to announce some sales for this coming week. I’ll make them good… so you’ll buy.

Now, about the successes that lead me to a huge insight.

All that people do is guided by memes, and they think they decided to do it. And you think they decided to do it from the goodness of their heart, from the badness of their heart, whatever seem to be the case. But in fact they never decided anything… It is the memes that are doing the deciding.

This is a totally different way to look at people, at life, and at what’s happening.

You can use this to re-interpret your past.

Why Most People Will Remain in Mediocrity

Most people will never become truly successful.

“It’s lonely at the top. 99% of people are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for mediocre. The level of competition is thus fiercest for ‘realistic’ goals, paradoxically making them the most competitive.”

-Tim Ferriss

Most people will never be truly successful.

The pull towards mediocrity is too strong. As David Schwartz once penned, “All around you is an environment that is trying to pull you down to Second-Class Street.”

Most people will never escape the pull.

Much of the thinking around us is small-minded. Most people are overly conce

Your life-success score is low… how do you raise it?

Your starting point measurements tell me the whole story that you are. And the picture of putting all those starting point measurements also tells me how humanity as a whole is doing. Pitiful. But why? Most people think that what they do when they are at their best, when they go to church in their […]

Reframing… Label of ethnicity or cultural origin

One of the things that came up in the Muscle Testing Course is ethnicity. This article is not political. It won’t even address your fear of different people… different from you. It only talks about this frame or the lack of it, that cost you your own personhood… you’ll see what I mean later in … Continue reading “Reframing… Label of ethnicity or cultural origin”

Reframing… Label of ethnicity or a cultural origin

One of the things that came up in the Muscle Testing Course is ethnicity. This article is not political. It won’t even address your fear of different people… different from you. It only talks about this frame or the lack of it, that cost you your own personhood… you’ll see what I mean later in […]

What is the technology of personal evolution…

I have said, in another article, that what is “normal” for a vehicle for the selfish gene (a human), is to move to and then stay in an ess. Evolutionary stable strategy. Where life works relatively smoothly. If you listen to the genes, you’ll live that way, you live in an ess. Your job, your … Continue reading “What is the technology of personal evolution…”

Reframing: our tool for creating

You’ve heard of the expression: like a deer caught in the headlights syndrome: frozen, seeing the world one way with no escape route. Most people live their whole lives in that state: see the world in a fixed way. To one degree or another we are all are like that. The more of your life […]

Change the context, get a surprising result: the increase of your TLB

I read articles. Mostly from Medium. And I found this one in my inbox today… I could have said: I already know this… and I would have missed a conclusion that is very important to YOU… Don’t know what TLB is?… It is your Twitchy Little Bastard score… when it is low, you are weak … Continue reading “Change the context, get a surprising result: the increase of your TLB”

What makes life worth living?

This article could be called a “life hack” which is a fashionable word nowadays. I don’t mind… but whatever you’ll call it will define it… Because what you’ll call it will be a context… What? Yeah… And context is the ultimate life hack. Most people don’t understand the distinction: context Why is that a problem? […]