Why is it that you look at a successful person and even if you copy all their actions, even if you copy their attitude the way they tell you, you won’t be able to duplicate their success? I have been slacking off growing, i.e. didn’t do much to grow, and I noticed. Not for a long time, maybe a week or two, but I have started to notice.
I want to address the phenomenon of the Law of Attraction vs. ” victim mentality ” in today’s post. Most of us interpret the Law of Attraction as a kind of ” Cosmic Soup Kitchen ” where you sit at a table, a waitperson comes and takes your order, and then you wait for your order to come. Sometimes your order comes, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes you get something totally different, something that you didn’t want. Some people’s order comes faster than yours, some others’ slower, or never. It all seems random, and capricious. Like the Universe is playing a game with you . Frustrating to most, happy and great for some. It seems like there are chosen people, or lucky, and something invisible marks YOU as the one who should never get ahead, never get what you want. You follow the instructions in The Secret, and still nothing. You can taste the sweet success as you are playing it in your mind’s eye, over and over again. Still, Nothing. I will turn to MY major source of wisdom, the Kabbalah, or the Book of Splendor (The Zohar). Why? Because it has an answer that I have seen working, all the time. The answer to this above dilemma is explained in the scene where Moses is leading the Israelites out of Egypt, they reach the shores of the Red Sea, and the Pharaoh’s army is in close pursuit, breathing down their neck. The Israelites drop on their knees, and cry out to The Creator. A voice comes out of nowhere and says: Why are you praying? Go into the water! Moses and the Israelites start walking into the water, that gets deeper and deeper, until it reaches their chin. Then they walk some more, and the waters split, and they can walk across to the other side.When the Pharaoh’s army gets there, the waters already seal themselves, and the Israelites are safe. Interesting story, but it is much more than a story. It is the key to activating the Law of Attraction: after you pleace your “order” in the “Cosmic Kitchen,” you need to get into action with certainty, that what you ordered is a done deal. That act of certainty and courage is what finally activates the Law. Waiting won’t. Now, I know that the missing piece is really, really, really, courage. Or better with capitized: Courage. I have been of the opinion, after coaching thousands, that the world suffers from courage deficiency. Courage deficiency is much like calcium deficiency… you cannot assimilate calcium if you don’t have Vitamin C, or if your stomach acid is too weak. And you will flush your calcium if you don’t have some other minerals… I can’t remember, maybe Magnesium? The same is with Courage. What is taking up the space that Courage should occupy? I say: Fear. I say: mostly unidentified Fear. Because, at least some of us, idle, not acting courageously, don’t know we are afraid. We seem to be reasonable, justified by the economy, by lack of time, lack of knowledge, whatever. If we knew we are afraid, we would at least have a choice about summoning courage… In my absolutely favorite movie, “Defending Your Life” our hero, played by Albert Brooks, accidentally activates Courage, by seeing that he will spend of the rest of his lives without Julia, played by Merryl Streep, and that is so unbearable, that his courage kicks in, maybe the first time in his life. But it changes how things go from there… he gets what he always wished for, the girl of his dreams. Now, we could all wait for a circumstance like that, or activate Courage by being a Powerful Manager ™ in your own life. Let’s return to the imagery I set up with Moses and the Red Sea: I had a realization today, that my MO (modus operandi) is such that I need to be thrown into the water, and THEN I “invent” swimming. Planning and then acting is not my MO. But unfortunately, for the most part, there is no one to throw you into the water. So you need to do it… So that is my / your next step, to become brilliant at that… Because going into the water is not an event: every day, when you wake up, you need to do it again. I call this being a Powerful Manager ™ in your life: put yourself into a situation where it is either swim or sink… and then start swimming. The style of swimming won’t matter: only that you swim. Your instinct will kick in, and you will swim and “take it home” whatever you were going after. The Universal Law of Attraction activates itself with that courageous act of throwing yourself into the water. What seems to be YOUR biggest stumbling block to activating The Law Of Attraction? Use the comment form to share…
I am not sure. I can just share one thing: In 1987, I was still working as an architect, I participated in a program called “More Time Workshop” It was about 15 hours long. We learned very simple time and results management methods… so that wasn’t what made the difference. What made the difference, and I’ll tell you in detail, in a minute, what the difference was… so what made the difference is that we had to promise to do everything we learned for 30 days, no days off… It was simple: you had a short term, a middle range, and a long range goal. You needed to look at them every day and then create 5-7 actions for the day. Priorotize them, and then schedule them into your calendar. At the end of the day go over your actions and see if you have done them or not. If not, move them to the next day, and schedule them. Once a week look at a long list of “I always wanted to do this” items. I found that after 30 days it was a no brainer. It did take an extra hour on my schedule to do this stuff, but I slept better than ever I had more energy and enthusiasm than ever before Things got done. What I invented for myself at the course was to become a magazine publisher. It was completely outside of my reach… By the end of 1988 I was a magazine publisher, and I published my publication for 11 years with great success, and I loved it. I got this result because I had a method to my life. A 100-day challenge can do miracles, this is why I signed up to the 100-day challenge… You can join me in it, if you want, you can do so till September 30. Here is the link: If you sign up and email me, we could become a support group for each other… I can definitely help you! Are you coming? Success is not waiting for anyone.
American citizens, eligible to vote, are divided. But whether you will vote to Obama, McCain, or stay at home and let others decide, one thing is certain, no one is looking at the real issue: The skill it takes to win the votes of the majority, i.e. win an election is a very different skill from the skill of running a country. Unless running it to the ground qualifies as running it…. 😉 as we have experienced, time and time again. Just like in politics, the same is true for teaching anything, including internet marketing. The skill it takes to be a successful internet marketer is a vastly different skill from the skill of causing another person’s success. We all look to our guru to teach us what to do and how to do it, so that we can be successful like them, and we all get very frustrated and very weary, because what they say and what they do are often different, and even if and when we did exactly what they said to do, we meet with meager success. How come? We seem all very surprised. Well, let me ask you this: have you ever heard of a successful football or basketball coach that played real well? Or the reverse: have you ever heard of a successful player that was also a great coach? Most successful players play from their “other than conscious mind.” Their conscious mind doesn’t know what they are doing: they feel their way. They say that chess masters use their other than conscious mind to play with lightening speed, that their conscious mind doesn’t even comprehend. I play freecell (a computer game). In the beginning I looked and looked, and only made moves that made sense to me. As the years passed, I am catching myself that when I give my other than conscious mind a good look at the computer screen with the game open, it knows what to do and wins the game for me. Thank you other than conscious mind. So what does this have to do with internet marketing? Unfortunately, a lot. They say internet marketing is simple but not easy. If we stay with the freecell computer game, the moves are real simple. but it is rare that someone can score a 100. why? Because you can make the simple moves ONLY in a certain order, and be successful at the same time. The pull to pick the low hanging fruit, and make the easy moves first, will certainly get you in trouble. And here are we, back where we started: The advantage of a good teacher is to give us a step by step plan… which the chess-master type guru can’t. He never did what he did consciously, so he can’t give you the plan. So what is the solution? What can a ‘guru’ give you that will make you succeed? I have come up with two possible solutions that look hopeful: 1. give people chunks of ready made pieces of the puzzle, and a simple assembly plan. i.e. do it FOR them. 2. give people and environment where they can do it with others, and guide them I am going to give you solution #1 today. I have prepared for you six websites, each designed to self-run itself and become successful with just a little help from you. And I have prepared for you a marketing goldmine: 103 different small and big strategies that you can follow to help nature in its work, and make the sites more successful, even take them to the top.
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