I cry a lot. Most of the time not about myself. I cry with people.
When I pull an anchor, decades of misery and sadness spill out. And I feel it. I feel your sadness. I feel your longing to belong, to be appreciated. And I feel that you feel that you have been mistreated. And now that we have uncorked it… you can grieve.
I recommend that you do. Grieve.
Just like when someone dies, grieving is a healing process. Crying all the tears that are there, instead of suppressing the pain until you have no lips…
One of the things on my Incomplete Cycles list is something I revisit monthly: it says: cry some. I have
I like to call the phenomenon of not being able to see what doesn’t agree with your theory of life: theory induced blindness. A more popular and better known label for it is “confirmation bias”.
You only hear what you agree with. Or more precisely, you only see what you recognize. And you only consider what you recognize as agreeing with your world view.
I see this every day with people who turn to me, who I coach, who I give a free strategy session to.
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My one-time teacher, Werner Erhard was invited to Stanford University by this professor who teaches and writes about compassio
What is motivation? It is the desire that moves… People say they are not motivated, but the truth is that every time you do something to fill a desire: sit down, watch tv, order a pizza… there is a motivation.
People like to say that they are not motivated, but what they are saying is that the action that is required of them has less power, less motive power than the fear accompanying it.
The truth is that every action that is taking you to an unknown, unpredictable area of life, future, is going to be accompanies with fear. Our reptilian brain makes sure of it.
Fear is our constant companion. As humans that got off the trees, were at the mercy of their fear to keep them alive. Every sort of danger was waiting them out there, and fear was a useful tool to keep them alive.
But, as you can see, humans used fear, instead of being paralyzed by them: they got out there and hunted, and gathered, and built shelters… and the ones that survived formed your ancestors.
I have been under the weather. If you are foggy, fat, tired, maybe you can join me in some free treatment?
This has been a trying winter, lots of cold, lots of snow, very little time spent going outside.
I feel weaker, and it feels like I am on my last leg. When I shared this with my friend from University, she was talking about reversing, and going to the doctor… but I was resigned. But what this conversation did to her: I didn’t like. And she is “just” a friend. And what this was doing to me… suddenly my sense of freedom is gone. I don’t read for pleasure… l
I’ve decided that there are two kinds of people; those who solve real problems and those who create imaginary ones. ~ quote from the Monday Morning Memo.
This quote arrested me…
True or not if I look at yourself right now, are you solving real problems or are you creating imaginary ones?
Your life, when we look at it, will tell you.
If you solve real problems, and there are enough of those, then you are a problem s
My methodology to lead you to become a human being is simple, and step by step.
First you become conscious of the machine and start taking control over your own life… by the Amish Horse Training Method, The memes finding, The A is A. And then fourth and final step is finding/creating the wind you walk into… The purpose. The meaning.
In the Nazi concentration camps, people who had a meaning to their lives, survived, people who didn’t… died. The guy who I learned this from is Victor Frankl, an Austrian Jew, like Sigmund Freud, and not much less significant. In my experience his discovery is the golden key to a happy existence.
This is an article that I copied over to my blog… so I can talk about some of the differences between how main stream handles alcoholism and how I handle it.
In my work, alcohol is an avoidance strategy: the person with the drinking would rather feel positive emotions, than deal with what there is to deal with: life, thoughts, emotions, relationships, problems.
Moving away and doing something that distracts one from an unwished for situation, thought, or feeling is called: obeying an urge.
Unless a person is taught different ways to relate to thoughts, feelings, memories, emotions, they will just continue to avoid them. Even if they become sober, they will just replace the alcohol with other behavior or substances: nothing changed inside.
Simple behavior modification doesn’t do it. A whole inner change is required, a superior skill to control one’s attention, that can be developed with practice.
Most humans living today are addicts and avoiders, one way or another. TV,
Of course my attention is splintered: some of it goes into feeling sorry for myself, some of it to ‘fix’ the misery… or its seeming cause. and some of it to see what is REALLY going on.
I always say that if you can go through hell with your eyes open and with wide cone of vision, you are going to see what lead you there and what you can do to reduce the likelihood of going through hell again any time soon.
So that is what I have been doing. Using my own example to help you in your frequent visits, or maybe even having been stuck in hell.
The gist of this article is to go within. Within really means: go to the vertical, instead of staying and living on the horizontal plane with all the drama, all the conflicts, all the bumping into this and that.
Being fluid like water is only possible when you approach life from your vertical being… the one that is unattached to the outcome, unattached to looking good, being right, comparing, remembering, thinking.
Bruce Lee lived that life, and, unfortunately, he was unique. But it is your birth right to be like him, it is the birthright of every person: except that you try to be like him and stay on the horizontal plane: too bad for you. You may be strong, but you won’t be fluid.
I teach people how to tell their vertical apart from their horizontal plane… it is not easy given everything that is being taught… but it’s possible.
Take a look at my classes, videos, audios, and coaching calls. If you are willing, I can teach you.
I cry a lot. Most of the time not about myself. I cry with people.
My methodology to lead you to become a human being is simple, and step by step.
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I just spent almost four whole days and whole nights in bed, in and out of sleep.