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The Anna Karenina Principle… or how to find and follow your path successfully

My name is Sophie Benshitta Maven
I am a true empath, and energy master, and a coach. I coach people to become expanding human beings… the next level of human evolution.
my site is yourvibration.com

This  podcast is about The path to happiness, fulfillment, and a life lived well?

there are two dramatically different approaches to self-growth.

The first will give you advice on what to do and promises that all those many actions will surely take you to where you want to go.

The second will use the Anna Karenina principle… where Lev Tolstoy says: Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.,

The Anna Karenina principle describes an endeavor in which a deficiency in any one of a number of factors dooms it to failure. Consequently, a successful endeavor (subject to this principle) is one where every possible deficiency has been avoided.

My understanding is that if you teach that the strait and narrow of finding your way leads through avoiding all possible deficiencies, faults, and false moves, will lead you through the strait.

You may be able to see people ahead of you in the strait, but no matter how hard you look, their actions may inform you, but the same actions, done by you may land you on the rocks… because most of what those people did was below the visible, even below their consciousness level.

On the other hand you also see people who have landed on the rocks, and their failures, mistakes, delusions, and wrong approaches are more visible…

Your job is to learn from both

But how?

You need to become a master of patterns and distinctions.

It is not an accident that there are so few happy and successful people on the planet.

Success without happiness is very frequent.
Happiness without success is rare… happy people don’t advertise that they are happy.

Deficiency in any one of the areas of life will lead to diminished success and diminished happiness.

Areas as sexual attraction, money issues, parenting, religion, in-laws

Or for a life well lived, you can’t neglect your health, your finances, your social relationships, and your mental well being. thinking biases, cognitive.

In my coaching, I take people through 67 steps where they contintually re-examine their lives in the face of 100 or so distinctions, patterns, and principles.

Through this examination, people grow towards the light, even thought the principles were at what to avoid.

This is the best coaching I have ever found and the results talk for themselves: people whose purpose is to grow, grow tall and straight and in the direction of happiness, success, and health.

Soul Correction: How do you do it?

life-blockedSoul correction is the pivoting point, the fulcrum around which a person can go from gene driven to someone who can become, potentially, an expanding human being.

Said in another way, each person has a particular and typical to their soul correction way that is stuck in a lower way of being.

The most frequent question I hear: how do you fix it? or as one my students said it: “this whole thing turns a lot of corners. I’m not sure i can even recognize all the ways i use it. Nor how to climb out of it.”

The answer will surprise you: The moment you are trying to “climb out of it” or “fix it”… you enter a world of pretense.

Both climbing out and fixing are the genes’ way of pulling the wool over your eyes. To push back

I looked what is more important to me than life itself…

8ca346c61dd1530c4a485f63b8883ed3Why do I write? Who do I write for? What is important to me? These are the questions are occupying my thoughts…

I just finished reading 1984, Orwell’s novel. I am not an American, so I never even heard about it until about 1984… In Hungary it is not a recommended reading.

It was a traumatic experience for me, much like Brave New World was back in 1977 when I first read it. Much soul searching followed, I am not quite done with the soul searching.

I mentioned to my driver that I read the book… and from her response, I think I was lucky: the best way to make an important b

Breaking into a new field… how to do it right… or wrong

breaking into a new careerSometimes we learned one profession but we want to change… and it is not that easy…

Here are two examples: one is my own, the other is a student of mine…

In the end I’ll ask for your input… please be generous.

After I came to the USA, I worked as an architect for about 30 months.

First I scoured the help wanted ads, and went on an interview with a prestigious Midtown Manhattan firm. They were impressed with me, my experience, and hired me on the spot with a salary that was four, nearly five times higher than what I made in Israel.

On my way out I passed pictures of their completed projects and realized that this job would have no integrity for me: I w