
When you become aware of your urges… a feeling that urges you to do something, mostly to relieve a tension, a pain, a fear, you’ll probably find this fear of being left out, being left behind.
Urges make you do self-destructive, self-damaging things. Things that when you watch other people do them, you shake your head.
Fear of being left out, fear of being left behind has an age associated with it. It’s young. And your behavior to “fix it” will be young too.