It may be true that the key to the kingdom is gratitude and appreciation, but just like humility, gratitude is rare

There is pretense gratitude… just like there is pretense humility. Ultimately your actions tell the real story.

I have been having shorter or longer conversations with people who ask for their Starting Point Measurements.

It’s, as it is usual with me, an experiment. I ask for my time at $200-$250 an hour, and I give away 3-4 hours a week in strategy sessions. I am starting to feel the tiredness… in fact this morning I woke up exhausted.

For most people time is just time… not any currency… but for me it is the most valuable non-renewable resource. It is not just time, it is all I h

Wake up. Everything you want is outside of Plato’s Cave

I love Rob Brezsny’s horoscopes. They are a weekly wakeup call… a few lines of text that grab me by the nape and throw out into the real world, to come to my senses.

Here is what he writes about it:

Many of us are essentially asleep, even as we walk around in broad daylight. We’re so focused on the restless narratives and repetitive fantasies unfurling in our heads that we only dimly perceive the larger story raging in all of its chaotic beauty around us.

To have any hope of permanently breaking out of our fuzzy trance, we require regular shocks. A single jolt might cause us to briefly come to attention and see the miracle of creation for what it is, but once the red alert has passed, we re

Three methods of growing yourself over time

I read some new self-growth suggestions, some new methods to grow yourself from the series of books I am reading.

I’ll mention three of those in this article.

  • One: as soon as you wake up, look who you are going to help today. And put the question on your reticular activator, the part of you that once it trusts you, will do almost all the work of finding stuff for you… The rule of this spiritual practice is: you need a new person every day.
  • Two: grow 1% every day in health, wealth, love and fulfillment.

In six months you’ll double yourself in all of those areas. ((Some of my coaching conversations to illustrate how I attempt to cause growth….

The three R-s… or how the bad news is a godsend and can be the beginning of something great

On my way home, climbing the long steps off Euclid Avenue, I was listening to Step 21 of the 67 Steps. It’s about a superpower of being able to get into a relationship with people because you can recognize how their machine works, and because therefore you can speak their language.

Everything comes to you through people… and you cannot get more abundance than what your skills with people allow you to have.

I have been resigned about my ability to get better at dealing with people. Resigned means: I have a fixed mindset about it, that says: it may be possible for you, but it’s impossible for me.

But being resigned doesn’t mean I have given up. I haven’t. But every time I read someone’s stuff, or watch someone’

How to break through when life looks hopeless or too hard or unmanageable… Overwhelmingly so.

I have two articles ready in my “pipeline”, but this topic is pushing its way in… What do you do, where do you go, when life seems to tell you that you are not enough? And feel pushed into overwhelm ((overwhelm: bury or drown beneath a huge mass…. defeat completely.))

When your precious “I” gets threatened? When you get a glimpse that you are, in fact, not the knight in shining armor…

I think I am becoming more empathic. I think I am becoming more sensitive to your unhappiness. Maybe even more compassionate?

Compassion is seeing where you are at, seeing that I’ve been there before, and offering a helping hand to help you get through it. ((The dictionary says something

Living life as an experiment is an attitude. It is an approach to life… Unemotional

I haven’t been feeling well. I feel dumb, I don’t remember what I am talking about, I am foggy. I don’t remember names like normal, and in the evening I just want to sleep, instead of reading.

I could be worrying, and I am hovering on the border of worry and “this is what it is”…

I could ask “what’s wrong”, but that would lead to a fix-it mode… and I am not interested in that.

Instead I am saying: this has been an experiment, this is an experiment, albeit an unplanned one… Let’s see what we can see, what we can learn from this experiment?

Obviously this is not a q

What does it really mean “You must be the change you want to see in the world”?

Today is starting out to be an interesting day.

I am getting thank you emails. And I am getting hate mail. ((And yesterday, in the BBC series, Wallander, he says in his talk in South Africa: Do we make a difference? Maybe. Sometimes. But we always try to make a difference.

My heroes are characters whose lives are not about their lives. Who are animated by an idea larger than themselves. And therefore they can rise above hate, and they can rise above envy, and they can rise above greed.))

The hardest thing to see is that in your world you call the shot. Even when you don’t know t

Marker feelings, or knowledge is power

You are going to understand this article on the level of your current accuracy… Be warned… it is probably less than 10%. Reading it more than once won’t help, only getting more distinctions into your tool box… accurately.

People don’t like to read… read and think… forget about it. The ones that do read and think will be the ones who win…

The English language uses feelings and emotions interchangeably. Anyone who believes that, looks through that lens has a clarity of less than 10%. It’s not a judgment: it’s a measurement.

Your effectiveness in life is a function of your clarity.

To increase your clarity, I’ll attempt to separate feelings from the emotions.

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