That I have never been asked, so I am volunteering the answer: What it feels like to intentionally connect to someone through their picture, so I can measure stuff about them?
I get to be paid ‘the big bucks’ because connecting to most anyone is like going under the knife without anaesthesia. It hurts. It’s jarring. It is painful. And then, with some people, the pain doesn’t go away.
So first I am feeling my own feelings of being violated.
The principle says: “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
It is the principle of the strait and narrow… Strait is another word for narrow… it is not straight… as in a straight line.
The principle applies, or can be applied, to all human endeavors, money, integrity, enlightenment, health… And yet almost every human I know goes the other way: looking for good ideas to add.
The principle simply said: avoiding/eliminating/abandoning what doesn’t take you there is the fastest way to get to the strait and narrow.
Before I do the webinar on inventing being a winner, it would be useful, wouldn’t you say, to distinguish what is winning, what is a winner, so you can choose to be that, or not.
So, I have been looking at everything through this distinction for the past few days, and I am starting to see things.
I have found that the difference between winning or not winning, oftentimes can be seen in the difference in attention.
OK, a little bit about attention: attention is a physical phenomenon, and everything physical conforms to laws of physics. One law says: only one thing can occupy any one space at any one time. So, if attention is a physical phenomenon, it simply means that it can’t go wondering, it can’t go to
If the who doesn’t change, nothing can change
This morning I opened an email from a dude who reads my emails, reads my articles, and says he resonates with what I say.
In his latest email he said that we should talk. That we are the world’s two smartest people… so we should talk.
I remember, in the “Ultimate Leadership” course, being guided around land mines while my eyes were closed. The issue of trust, trusting my life to another human being was something I still have nightmares about today. The course was almost 10 years ago.
But in that exercise I knew the outcome, so I could keep it in my mind’s eye as “that’s what will be the result if all goes as planned.”
The ignorant is easily mislead. And we are all ignorant and thus mislead to one degree or another. It is on the scale of 1 to 100 like most things in life.
Ignorance, ignorant simply means: lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about a particular thing… often most things to be precise.
Ignoring, the verb, interestingly, means: make room for it, pay it no heed, grant it no significance.
It’s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth.
This has been one of the principles I live by.
Now, that finally the harmful effects of the milk protein wore off… and I am returning to being normal.
So my Sunday Rants call was more productive than maybe ever. Not less ranty… mind you, but more insights.
It is very easy to think in a tiny box, and most people live that way. It is even possible for most to stay in that tiny box when they listen to someone, or read something. They never leave, never enlarge the box, never go anywhere.
Because what gives you your world, what you see, your actions, your words, your feelings… that is what is in the box.
I realized that some 29 years ago. It was New Year’s Eve, and I spent it on the phone with a Landmark staff member from Detroit.
We took turns to speak the New Year into existence.
One of the reasons you are not as astute in life is because you can’t see the forest for the trees.
You can see the example, but you cannot see the distinction.
But why?
Seeing patterns is a higher function of the brain, and needs to be developed and nurtured. I call this astuteness, or the using the astute capacity.
Humans, some of them, are capable, genetically, to have thought experiments. Animals can only learn through trial and error.
Now, everything that is beyond animal is controlled by DNA, genes. By genes that can be set to on or to off… These genes could be called epigenetic genes… where epi means: on or above in Greek. And ‘epigenetic’ describes factors beyond the genetic code. Epigenetic changes are modifications to the DNA that regulate whether genes are turned on or off. These modifications are attached to DNA and do not change the sequence of DNA.
I have been ‘harping’ on this principle with my students: hear the principle first, and then hear the rest…
Imagine that you are Cinderella… on the night of the big ball.
If I asked you (Cinderella) to separate the wheat from the chaff… what would you do first? If you are like me, you first find out what is the difference… in looks, in weight, and then start separating them accordingly.
I even used to use this capacity (oops, forgot to say, it’s a capacity!) to hire or not hire someone to work with me. I would ask someone to separate a pile of things by their category…
For you Everything is the same as everything else … except not always
Universally missing capacity… I found out. The underlying capacity can be said with these words: be able to tell the forest for the trees.
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