Creative visualization

is the technique of using mental images to realize certain objectives. It can help you achieve success and to accomplish your goals. It is a process that requires creativity, visual images, and a sharp and inventive way of seeing what the finished product, behavior, or result looks. It is a mental strategy, meaning it uses the resources of the mind with creativity to make ambitions come true. Creative visualization can be described as a self-help method which uses your thoughts to manifest what you long for in your own life.

Creative visualization is the strategy of utilizing a person’s capacity for thinking to picture specific behaviors or occasions taking place in a person’s life. It is the art of using mental imagery and a positive emotional relationship to that imagery to produce positive change in your reality. It is a way of utilizing little energy in the moment of constant practicing, to create yourself in harmony with the universe and the object of your desire. It can bring about abundance, happiness, joy, greater performance. The constant visualization re-calibrates your vibration to the level of vibration of what you want, be it material or emotional result. Creative visualization is the approach to attract your real-life goals and dreams and make those a reality. Continue reading →

The power of intention

Most people don’t know it because they have never experienced the power of intention, because they don’t know how to get access to intention.

They never intend. They live inside wanting to, needing to, having to, and should… the horizontal plane, the Valley of the Shadow of Death… Fear of death, fear of annihilation.

While intention lives on the vertical plane.

One of the ways your vibration lowers, and your freedom is taken away is to hook you on fear or hate. Or helplessness. Or what I call the rag doll.

In fact hate is fear-based too.

Fear of annihilation.

Everyone gets hooked occasionally, but many are hooked permanently, unless they awaken from the nightmare.

If you find yourself temporarily hooked, there is still hope for you.

This is what this article is about… how to unhook yourself from the horizontal plane.

Unfortunately, of course, intention is part of what the responsibility gene allows you to wield… and responsibility is what separates humanity to powerful and powerless…

Because responsibility is the ability to use the god-abilities.

Is wanting like intention? No, although they FEEL similar.

The difference is under the hood: wanting wants the target, the ‘have’, while intending goes for the process, the doing.

When I observe, deep inside, my rag doll clients, I find that they 1. don’t have the causing capacity on, and they haven’t found a way to experience it, because they only have attention to the ‘having’.

Where attention goes, energy flows, and the energy flows to the having: the results. And mostly to the feeling of having the results.

Sometimes the results are purely having: feeing good about yourself.

But unless you redirect your attention to the doing, you’ll lose energy, you’ll lose interest, and you’ll lose the result.

So it’s a catch 22.

You want the result, you don’t want the process, the doing, you don’t want what belongs to you, and of course you don’t have the result.

So back to intention: why is it that only people who are at least 200 vibration that can muster intention?

It has something to do with intelligence, awareness, being able to tell your ass from a hole in the ground.

Under 200 you can’t.

The world, reality has two kinds of things in it: things that belong to you, and things that don’t.

Unless you can tell the difference, unless you learn to tell the difference, you are shit out of luck.

Not until you manage to raise your vibration to the power-threshold: to 200.

I have never asked this question… so if it goes a little shaky, a little chunky, forgive me, will you?

If you look around, all the people who talk a lot, all the people who talk a lot in their head, talk about what doesn’t belong to them.

And don’t talk about the things that do.

So what belongs to you?

1. what you do and how you do it. It belongs to you. You have a choice about it. To do or not to do. To do it with vigor, or to do it with reluctance, or sloppy, or like someone is forcing you to do it. This second is your attitude that you create with your words. Your words.

2. Attitude: it was already explained in #1.
3. Your word: it is already explained in #1.

And that is that.

• The little voice in your head doesn’t belong to you.
• Your thoughts don’t belong to you
• What you feel doesn’t belong to you
• Your emotions don’t belong to you
• The results, or anything that you have don’t belong to you
• Your children, your spouse, your friends, your clients, even your business don’t belong to you.

The only things that belong to you are the things that only belong to you. The things you can control or if not yet: you can learn to control.

Obviously the consequences of your actions, your attitude, and your word don’t belong to you either. And consequences they have, both desirable and undesirable.

Now, why is this important? This whole ‘intention stuff?’

Because even at a low vibration you can channel your attention to what belongs to you:

• what you do: your actions
• how you do it: your attitude
• what you say: your word (the context).

If you learn to channel your attention to what belongs to you, even if you are only sporadically successful, your vibration will rise. And the better you get at it, the higher it can go.

But, warning, your attention is always only on one thing and one thing only.

So you consciously need to decide where you want to put your attention. You’ll decide to put it on things where you have power, or on things where you are a rag doll… powerless, an effect, not a cause.

So this choice, this decision is your moment to moment challenge.

People who sail through troubled times are masterful at choosing to put their attention and therefore their energy to what theirs to do.

Mastery will take some time… but even people who are able to control their attention on the low level are going to come out more winning than if they didn’t embark on mastery.

So let’s look a little bit at troubled times, and the effect it has on people.

Whether the fear is manufactured or real is immaterial.

Your behavior in the face of fear, as far as I can tell, is either frozen, like dear in the headlight, avoiding to even look, hiding, or it is flailing, making jumps, hasty, haphazard, reactive.

I have both in my client base.

This last Wednesday’s What’s Missing workshop some people took on being deliberate as something they have everything to say about. Now, whether they will choose to be deliberate or not, that is another question. I have, and I have been.

Also some people took on being purposeful… i.e. guided, advised, informed by a purpose to what they are doing.

To be purposeful one needs to have invented a purpose… so far one of those people informed me about what that is, ‘a world where self-love is available’. But inventing a purpose isn’t enough. Unless it is empowered, unless it is GIVEN POWER by the person, it is just a nice little exercise.

Often people need to be thrown out to land on their asses, stripped of everything that has sustained them to wake up and see that even after everything external is removed, they still have themselves and what really belongs to them.

I have always said that for anyone to finally do what they need to do to become a person, the reality they live in needs to be unbearable… to them.

Like it was for me for the first 60 years of my life.

Had I considered it tolerable, I would be married now with lots of great grandchildren. Still miserable, but life will be tolerable… at best.

I would hate myself, but could live with myself. Like you.

So, what is there to do?

Let us see the steps!

1. Practice controlling your attention. Read and notice when your attention wonders. or during conversations. Or at any time, and gently return it to what you are doing.

Consider that the purpose of it is that you can actually become powerful…

As long as your attention doesn’t obey you, you are powerless, a puppet on a string directed by whatever steals your attention.

2. Notice your attitude: ragdoll, entitled, hopeful, weak, victim, homework, and consider that your attitude, just like your attention now belongs to circumstances… and your job is to wrestle control back…

When your attention and your attitude starts really belonging to you, i.e. are under your control, your vibration will be 200, maybe even above.

3. This is where adjusting your DNA will be able to give you a 10x boost… but not before.

Your emotional state, your health, your earning power, your position in the world can be boosted to a high level… but not until you regain control over your attention and your attitude.

Now you know.

It sounds easy, but it isn’t. It requires effort… maybe even superhuman effort. Superhuman nowadays would have been ordinary 100 years ago, but today’s humanity is so weak, so puny, so powerless, that you being able to control your attention for even just a minute puts you head and shoulders above most people.

By the way, the purpose of meditation is to control your attention.

But if the training stops there, then it doesn’t give you enough…

In the TM University obviously people get trained way beyond it: TM University graduates do really well in life… because of that attention, attitude, intention, purpose training.

But I don’t want to give you something you have no access to at your vibrational level yet.

Work on your attention. Really.

If you have purchased the Amish Horse Training Method and didn’t benefit from it: it is because your control over your attention is puny or non-existent.

It is the hardest… My level is 30%, still puny.

Unless you get that number up to a respectable number, which starts at 7%, there is not much I can give you or promise you.

OK. So what you should do now?

If you trust yourself, then start reading, and start catching your attention wonder, and gently coax it back to what you are doing.

Use the Stop/Change/Start method if it could work. I do.

If you want to control your attention about the self-talk, fear, and inner chatter, maybe you want to get the Amish Horse Training Method.

First train your attention to listen and learn it, and then train your attention to tell the difference between what is you and what is not you… That is the goal of that Training.

Please know that attention and focus are not interchangeable. Your focus needs to be fuzzy… fuzzy focus sounds like and oxymoron, but it isn’t. Narrow focus always takes you to bad places… so keep your focus fuzzy, and your attention controlled.

Read the original article: If you find yourself scared, lost, discouraged, or stuck…

You are going to understand this article on the level of your current accuracy… Be warned… it is probably less than 10%. Reading it more than once won’t help, only getting more distinctions into your tool box… accurately.

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What does it take to attract your desire?

In January, people make resolutions, that address some of their deepest desires.

Weight, relationship and money are the three most frequent wishes, and most of them never go anywhere, no change, and yet another year makes hope lost a little bit more, confidence lost a little bit more, self-esteem lost a little bit more.

Why would this be?

There are many reasons, but I’d like to address one: it takes several inner and outer changes to bring about the capacity to change any of the three main areas.

And because we weren’t told how to change our inner world, little by little, one tiny change at a time, we never actually do it, and unless your inner world, your being changes, your outer world, your weight, your relationships, your money situation can’t change.

Examples to this what happens when there are sudden and unprepared-for changes that came from the outside.
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“A man wrapped up in himself makes a very small parcel.”
~John Ruskin

When you have a narrow cone of vision, or watch something to close to it… so close that you identify with it, what you see is largely useless.

Try this: try to see your palm clearly while your eyes are only a centimeter from your skin. You can’t. And everything there will fill you will dread… without a larger context nothing makes sense, and everything feels threatening.

When you look at your feelings, your thoughts like you just looked at your palm, we call that introspection.

Some of my students go there, from time to time, instead of keeping distance between the observed and the observer, distance physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.

The Amish Horse Training Method, the Playground method (the meaning), the Memes (Tree of Knowledge), the Attitudes (Approaches), and, of course the whole science of being able to tell a feeling from an emotion… aka the Marker Feelings… They all need you to keep a healthy distance and a neutral attitude… i.e. observe them from the “Observer or Witness” position. From Outside of yourself. [note]1. Tracking the voices and being able to tell them from yourself… The technology taught in the Amish Horse Training

2. Tracking the memes and again… telling them from your own views… your own Tree of Life truth. Memes could be said to the The Tree of Knowledge the Old Testament talks about. The Tree of labeling…

3. Telling apart what happened and the meanings, interpretations, you added or accepted, etc. This technology is taught in the Playground.

4. Recognizing the unproductive attitudes, stuck attitudes, that won’t allow you to have what you want, and create new ones and make them real in your life. I teach this, or at least wake you up to them in the Money Attitudes workshop. I plan to create a course, like a did for the Playground, many weekends long

5. Marker Feelings[/note]

My webinars, my workshops, train you to distinguish for yourself what it feels like to create a distance, what it sounds like, what it looks like… to you.

What it feels like to be in Plato’s Cave… and what it feels like to be outside.

Life, thoughts, emotions, relationships, life’s purpose, liking… all look different in the “light of day”… i.e. outside of Plato’s Cave.

I am still learning to teach creating distance… teaching it with simple words…

It is, in my experience, the hardest thing to teach. You cannot connect to Source unless you can create that distance. You cannot muscle test accurately, unless you can create that distance. You can’t have a life that works, unless you can create that distance.

And I can’t explain to you how to do it… I even had a whole course once on just that… It was called “Detached” and it taught the participants, unsuccessfully, to step back.

So this is a work in progress… to teach it with words.

Participants who took my Playground, the Amish Horse Training, and the Money Attitudes workshops learned it through osmosis…

But how do you translate it to words… Sigh…

One of my students implemented a new practice: becoming an idea machine. He has committed to write 10 new ideas a day. I have tried: wicked hard… but gets you out of the cave. Why? Maybe because reality is a lot bigger than your cave? lol.

I hear the odd teacher or writer mentioning this issue… but they, so far, haven’t written anything that would help me help you.

OK… let’s see what are your options:

If you look at the illustration on the top of this page, you see four quadrants. The “archetypes” are 10% accurate… the truth value is what phd’s can create… low, but maybe we can use it for discussion.

The first category or archetype it talks about is the They spend their entire self-obsessed time in their mind. They want to get better, they are obsessed with self-improvement. This, counter-intuitively, has a positively negative effect on their “self-improvement”.

One interpretation of self-improvement is called the introspection mode—where you continually examine your thoughts and feelings—and it can get you stuck… inside Plato’s Cave, where you wanted to get out of… to begin with. Rather than becoming more self-aware, you lose touch with reality, the reality of yourself (and others).

You might be thinking that introspection is the same as self-awareness… but it isn’t. In introspection you honor all the thoughts and all the feelings as real… and then you think about it. Introspection is rehashing thoughts, and it doesn’t generate insights. For insight you need to see something from a distance… or you won’t see it.

90% of the visitors of this site start out as Introspectors. Their “thinking about themselves” score is sky high (above 90%), their delusion/inauthenticity score: ditto.

There is nothing wrong with them: they are looking at things inside Plato’s Cave, and even there they are looking from too close.

Too Much Introspection Can Kill You

Thinking doesn’t lead to knowledge.

Contrary to what you would expect, people who score high on self-reflection are more stressed, anxious, and less satisfied with their work and personal relationships. They are self-absorbed and feel less in control of their lives. No wonder: life is happening outside of Plato’s Cave… and that is not where they are.

Thinking about yourself is not correlated with knowing yourself.

Self-reflection and insights are an inverse phenomenon… they are inversely correlated. The more time you spend doing introspection the less insight you are able to gain.

Constantly inspecting your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors doesn’t mean you see the inner dynamic, the causation, the correlation. You are too close to it to see it.

You can gain insight from comparing introspection, where you are busy with your thoughts and feelings and meditation where your job is to simply allow your Witness to see the thoughts and feelings, from a neutral, sober eye perspective. In introspection you are “in it”… In meditation you are outside of it… or at the minimum, you have a distance between the observer and the observed.

Introspection involves thinking, categorizing, labeling, analyzing—you are evaluating your thoughts and emotions. Mostly from the systemic value point of view. Meditation is about being aware of what you are doing and just observe—you witness thoughts, feelings, reactions without judging them.

The Introspection Trap

You may approach self-improvement with a rigid mindset: that there is something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. You expect to find an answer that will fix what is wrong with you.

This does not work, because there is nothing wrong with you. You cannot fix what is not wrong.

It works to trust consciousness and appreciate the journey from where you are, what you can see now, and what is possible to see during the journey. When you allow consciousness to view what there is to view, reality, your behavior will change, inside and outside.

Consciousness, witness, observer are words I use interchangeably  to address that impartial part of “All-of-it” that isn’t concerned with right and wrong, good and bad, living or dying… That part of you is able to see where you deviate from the strait and narrow… and once you saw it, with Consciousness, you cannot unsee it.

Jon Kabat-Zinn said: “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.” When Jon Kabat-Zinn says “in the present moment” he should say: not jumping into “ever/never” conclusions… right/wrong conclusions… that kind of conclusion comes from the mind… not consciousness.

Mindfulness is the practice of noticing the degree in which we are identified with our thoughts and beliefs. It’s creating space for:

Awareness, not thinking
An attitude of openness and curiosity, not judging
Flexibility of attention, not resisting

I don’t think mindfulness is a good word… but maybe you’ll connect to it… albeit I have never met a man or a woman who practiced mindfulness and WAS “mindful”… meaning: not thinking, not reactive, not resisting.

When you fall into the introspection trap, you spend all your time in Plato’s Cave. [note]I am quoting from an article… original here. Obviously, if you know what I teach, what is written in this article is imprecise and ineffective. No distinction, no definition here… But you may be able to enjoy it, so read it

The Introspection Mode Trap

1. You let self-doubt take over

Your mind is fragile. Too much thinking invites self-doubt to take over. When you lose touch with yourself, you stop appreciating what you are worth. What is essential is invisible to reason.

Self-doubt erodes confidence. And you start feeling sorry for yourself. Self-pity is an exaggerated sense of sorrow when you become a victim of your inner-critic. The quest for finding who you are can turn you upside down.

2. You rehash memories over and over

Rumination is an ineffective coping behavior. When we cannot accept reality, we repeatedly chewing sad experiences or conversations, is like getting stuck in the sand.

Rehashing memories is like watching the same movie over and over. You know the storyline by heart, pretending a different ending is useless. Spinning a story will get you stuck without providing any insights.

3. You are obsessed with finding ‘the’ truth

Most people do soul searching to find the perfect answer. However, there’s no absolute truth. We all have different challenges—there’s no such a thing as a perfect solution that addresses everyone’s questions.

Trying to find ‘the’ truth can blind us. You stop observing; no answer will ever be good enough. It’s better to be kind to yourself than to be right. Be compassionate with yourself. What seems right today might not work for you tomorrow.

Your questions will change, so will your answers.

4. Your thoughts can eat you alive

Having thoughts is normal. But when you fall into the introspection mode trap, you let your thoughts take over. Too much thinking can get you distracted. Or, even worse, they can cloud your mind.

Your thoughts are like wolves that live inside of you, as I wrote here. If you don’t tame them, they can eat you alive. You need to neutralize your thoughts to avoid turning introspection turn into a suffering game.

5. You have a perfectionist mindset

Perfectionism is the enemy of change. When your standard is too high, nothing you think or do will be enough. Instead of helping you uncover insights, introspection feeds your judgmental mind.

Self-reflection without compassion is torture—it’s your judgmental self on steroids. Constantly trying to over-perform triggers the fear of making mistakes and underperform. Reflect to improve, not to become perfect.
Self-Awareness Is Not Just about You[/note]

“Self is a sea boundless and measureless.”
~Kahlil Gibran

Self Reflection is judgmental…

To know yourself is to accept yourself. I call that Unconditional Love… where the two selves you have form a relationship of love and acceptance, regardless of what one would expect, mistakes, faults, weaknesses. Like an ideal mother would accept an imperfect child. An impossible ideal… But you can get closer and closer to it.

My two selves, just measured, are 8% from each other, or that Unconditional Love. This is why I can take the abuse of that Psychic witch who has been tormenting me. This is why I can be OK not knowing stuff that I SHOULD know… except you know what you know, and can work on finding answers to what you don’t know… I am OK with that.

The further your two selves are, the less tolerance, the less patience, the less elbow room you have for yourself to be.

When I ask people what they want most, they want to be free to be themselves.

But the jail-keeper, the task master, the slave driver is themselves…

Self-awareness is achieved through observing and accepting who you are, how you are, warts and all—not who you should or shouldn’t be. Acceptance is embracing every part of your self, not just the nice ones.

Thinking about yourself isn’t correlated with knowing yourself. It can sometimes create the opposite effect: the more time you spend in introspective mode, the less self-aware you become.

You can spend a whole weekend doing introspection and, come Monday, you won’t have improved your self-knowledge.

People with higher self-awareness are more confident, more creative, communicate more effectively and build stronger relationships.

I have been reading the books of a guy, I call The Dude. I can track how his self-awareness grows… how he got out of introspection/unconsciousness mode… and what he did to achieve that. I am going to schedule a webinar to teach it… watch out for my emails…

To increase your self-awareness you need to look outside, not just inside.

Focusing too much on yourself is a trap. You put yourself in the center of the Universe… and expect others to see you as you see yourself. They won’t… they will see you the way they see you. [note]

People who score high in self-awareness (“Aware) know themselves well and also care to understand how others see them.

Source: Harvard Business Review

“Introspectors” lack external self-awareness. They are unaware of their blindspots—they don’t know what they don’t know. Looking for external feedback is critical to developing external self-awareness. The five questions exercise is a good tool for this… if you do it in a way where people are willing and able to tell you the truth without you getting upset…

“Pleasers” are focused on external perception. They care so much about what others think of them that they are not authentic. They lost touch with themselves and don’t do much about it. Instead of seeking fulfillment, they wear the masks others expect from them. Smart, confident, kind, funny… all fake, all invented, all make you miserable.

“Seekers” are lost souls. They lack clarity on who they are or what they stand for. They are also clueless about how others perceive them. Being a “seeker” can be a temporary or permanent stage. We all lose clarity of who we are from time to time. Some people simply decide not to do anything about it.

This matrix is helpful to assess of where you are and what you need to work on.[/note]

The Path of The Self Aware Person

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
~Aristotle

Developing self-awareness is not a goal, like an Olympic gold medal… it is nothing until you get it. It is on a scale between 1-100… My self-awareness is 70%. Whatever is lacking in my life is a consequence of not having a full self-awareness, yet I am reasonably happy, reasonably healthy, reasonable able to live comfortably, and am fulfilled.

The four aspects of the self, physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual need to be observed in tandem and grown in tandem

Being obsessed with understanding your inner-self can get you stuck. You probably call your inner self how you feel… while the rest of you is left in the dark.

Self-awareness, the non-judging, not-too close awareness of your different aspects, your behavior, your place in the world, how you affect other people, makes you more confident. Because you can see.

And anything you can see, you can adjust.

Read the original article: Here is a piece of the puzzle I have missed… the trap of introspection

How To Beat Depression Without Medication

Eppic Smith

You Can Beat Depression… if you recognize it as depression

I found this article when I searched for the phrase “beat depression.”

Many of us are depressed. Depression can be low-grade or raging… I am most interested in the low-grade depression, it is easier to beat depression that is low-grade without medication.

The writer of this article uses valid arguments for self-management, but misses a lot of factors, like what did he do, exactly, that allowed him to beat depression to begin with.

He says he took responsibility for his feeling down and out, ad he kicked the medications… so far so good.

But what he isn’t saying is that depression is a sign of something.

What is it a sign of? In my experience, as a once depressed person (for 40 years!) I have noticed a few common characteristics with my coaching clients.

1. I lacked desire.
2. I was not happy with myself
3. I could not see myself clearly doing what I thought I wanted to do… the picture was there like fuzzy patches, but not like a movie.

So, how do you get out of these three interconnected and synergistic (negatively) states of mind?

I think that the easiest is to start with number 2.

Why? Because it is easier go get happy(er) with yourself, especially because you need energy for the other two, and having a good feeling about yourself will give you energy.

You can also start really small, like doing something that you consider hard to do, but still doable, like

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The key to growth is noticing… The key to raising your vibration is awareness

“Dear Astrology Guy: Please tell me why I have to work so hard — meditate, reflect, read, analyze, poke, prod, investigate — to discover truths about myself that must be obvious to others. Why is it so hard for me to see where I need healing and where I need to let go? Why is it such an ordeal to grasp what is interfering with my wholeness when I can quickly pinpoint what other people’s issues are? -Overworked Virgo.” Dear Overworked: I’m happy to report that you will soon be offered a gush of revelations about who you are, how you can heal, and what strategies will best serve your quest to minimize your anxiety. Are you prepared to absorb some intense teachings? For best results, make yourself extra receptive.

Now, if you are like me, you want to raise your vibration! You don’t want to wait for the “right alignment of the planets” to be able to heal, or minimize your anxiety, get guidance, etc. You want to do it now, if possible. You can if you concentrate on raising your vibration instead of all the details.

You want to take an active stance, an active position in the matter.
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You are an object in a world of objects… like driftwood.
People treat you as an object too…
And you treat people as objects that stand in your way, bother you, and such. Or give you stuff… or entertain you. But not as a person with their own feelings Continue reading →