On my call with Paulo, my podcast partner for my Sunday call, I shared that I’d spent four hours in bed the night before. Sleepless. But in the end I did my breathing I learned some 40 years ago, and I fell promptly asleep.

As I was sharing I saw that it is obviously a racket I have, being an insomniac. All designed to gather sympathy… ugh. So I shared that insight too.

This was on Monday. It’s Wednesday now, and I fell asleep both nights in between within minutes of turning the light off. I just did my breathing exercise and that is that.

I didn’t beat myself up. Didn’t ‘shame’ myself, I didn’t brag about it. Instead I saw it, deeply, and acknowledged that I had power against insomnia that I wasn’t using. And that it was probably a racket.

And with that I turned back the power.

I call that public authenticity.

Now let’s contrast it with the things some of my students do, habitually. Continue reading →

The fastest new way to have energized (coherent) water 24/7

It is new to you. I have been using it without any change for years now…

I’ll share with you how I am having fresh coherent water without ever using the energizer audio or manually charging my water.

I use the phenomenon called entrainment.

In entrainment, coherent water will bring up the water touching it, or close enough, so eventually it will become coherent too.

The component are:

• enclosed smaller bottles of water where the enclosed water is coherent
• a larger container with the smaller bottles and topped off with energizable water. Water needs to be free from dissolved chemicals to be coherent. Most commercial filters leach chemicals into the water, making them not energizable.

The proportion of the energized water and not-energized water matters a lot. Continue reading →

I am very lucky: the questions my students send me have caused me to have a deeper understanding for my own work.

These students are often seeking new insights in their pressing circumstances from me. Lately it is all about making a decision to stay or leave, to let go or to fight.

It is a huge responsibility to talk to people who are looking for answers.
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Sophie, I loved your Lagrende coaching call. It was incredible. I still cant get over it how much lessons in there that were so amazing.

When you say the only thing we are responsible for is an attitude and action do you mean ours only? We can not be responsible for other peoples actions or attitudes. Right? So an example if my daughter does something that causes her to be upset and part of that was my involment then I am responsible for my part and she is responsible for her part? Its not about feeling bad or blaming ourself its seeing that youve done it and admitting it.

When it comes to communication if other party refuses to communicate then its not up to me. I just leave it be. Right? Communication can only happen between two people willing to talk and agree or disagree?

let me answer in an audio

Read the original article: Responsibility: what can you be responsible for?

There is a misunderstanding of how things work that clips a lot of people’s wings.

It comes from the ‘goalsetting culture’ that has proven itself a misery-maker. Being motivated with what you want…

You commit to a result.

But results are outside of your power. They will either happen if you do the right steps or they won’t.

Life is a lot more complicated than boiling water. You can promise that water will boil if you manage to give it enough heat that it reaches its boiling point. But if your promises are in that sphere of predictable, then you are not going to amount to much: you probably live a life of quiet desperation.

Anything you pursue is running from you.

The reason that of all the people on Earth the people of the United States are the most wretched is because of their pursuit of happiness. Continue reading →

The idea that it is up to you… that you have power… beyond your brain (hardware): that is alien to most people.

The feedback I am getting from Friday’s article is that I accidentally spoke from the penthouse of consciousness, and didn’t speak to where people, where you are.

Oops… didn’t realize.

I just finished reading a novel I started and re-started 6-7 times, because it was barely tolerable what was happening in the story. Emotionally, to my sense of right… intolerable.

You see, my TLB is only 70 on a scale of 1 to 100… and abuse, betrayal, no regard for another are difficult for me to stay with, and not run away. So I did 5-6 times… until I buckled down and read the book. I am glad I did… but it was hard for me. Emotionally.

As a sidenote: not in insignificant way, reading what is hard to read, emotionally, has increased my TLB a lot, my estimation 20 of those 70 came from that. Not hard as hard to understand, but hard as hard to be with… emotionally.

In the book there is a mentally challenged, probably brain damaged young man, his lawyer, and a whole society hostile or apathetic… but that is not what I wanted to talk about. Continue reading →

My teacher, Robert Hartman famously said: to know good you need to study evil. To turn your life around, you need to study what keeps you stuck.

As I am gearing up to teach the machine that we call the racket, I am getting emails from participants, people who registered in the workshop.

Those who are smart (not many :-\ ) come prepared. Armed in having witnessed enough of the distinction and the process to be able to recognize it on themselves by buying the Racket Course… have questions.

I am sure the rest of them want me to do all the work, and make them good, pretty, slim, smart, happy, rich… did I leave anything out?

The racket is a machine. It has a trigger that is an on-switch… and it even has an off-switch. Continue reading →

The most common human experience is powerlessness… Powerless in the face of outside and inside forces…

Humans are a weird animal. They consider themselves smart… but smart people don’t act like victims. They are proud of their big brains… but don’t use it.

The dividing line between being a lower species and a higher species is the ability to take responsibility for one’s actions, for one’s life.

But responsibility is an inner dialog…using that big brain to actually get some clarity about what that lower species self is doing, has done, is planning, so one can take over and drive that life of yours. Continue reading →

Imagine the scenario. The guy gets on one knee, pulls out a little box from his pocket, opens it to show a beautiful ring… and asks: Will you marry me? And the woman answers: I am willing to marry you…

Oops… all the magic is gone.

Or maybe the woman answers: I will commit… When? asks the distraught guy… putting away the ring… weeping inward.

Not romantic, not straightforward… very um, I don’t even have a word for it. Continue reading →