There are many many ways to play the game of Life

I experiment with some myself… so in addition to observing others, I also get additional data. Like how Life responds to the different ways.
I have recently had a breakthrough. A breakthrough I have intended for about 30 years.
Landmark Education and its graduates are famous for their big words. BOLD. AUDACIOUS this and that. Blazing a path, blah blah blah.

Nothing a mere mortal can put in action consistently… Or even once.

This is why most Landmark graduates’ vibration drops: they now have to pretend more than before. Now they have to do more courses and more courses… Ugh.

So for years I experimented with bold and audacious… to no avail.

My base nature, I think, is fearful, and maybe even cowardly. So bold and audacious was about as far for me as climbing the Kilimanjaro barefoot.

But I kept at it, and kept at it. Hey, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

So I succeeded, after 30 years…

Now, truth be told, I only have it working in one, maybe two area of my life… but if I have time, if I live long enough, I promise I’ll bring it to all of my life.
Bold and audacious is just one way to play the game.
So, before I brag more, lol, let’s look at some of the ways I see one can live life.

The fearful and maybe even cowardly way’s hallmark is the narrow cone of vision. Afraid of making mistakes, because they mean something. Like death? Like you are as good as dead if you don’t succeed?
The tentative way: every step of the way the ‘actor’ has to ask someone if that is OK?
I am waiting to get excited! way: When the excitement comes there is feverish activity, and then when the work really begins, whatever the work is, the excitement fizzles out.
The floppy and uncertain way… Seemingly drag their asses… because they are uncertain that it is worth doing what they are doing.
Then defiant: I’ll do it goddamit! way: no joy, no joy, no joy. Joyless servitude.
The ‘I know better’ way: bringing creativity to brushing your teeth way, not where it would be useful.
If nobody sees me, if it doesn’t buy me instant celebrity status, I am not going to do it
I hope they notice how good a guy I am. No? Baaah! I’ll cry

If you look and can see, you’ll see that the organizing principles are: narrow cone of vision, fixation inside that narrow cone, and all action is on the outside… there is no Self… or if there is: it is not participating in the game, doesn’t inform the ‘actor’.

The above examples are from my students.

Now, another aspect, the results, are that no growth, no challenge, no spiritual growth, personal growth, not even growing what you are working on is possible playing the game with those ways, those attitudes.
My breakthrough, 30 years in the making, wasn’t forthcoming.
So a few days ago Source was blocking everything I was doing… it was visceral and not very pleasant. Felt like a cow being driven by cowboys, out

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This is a republished article from June 26, 2013… So please don’t get alarmed… this didn’t just happen. It happened long time ago. But the message is as timely as ever…

What is the opposite of reaction; is it response? Is it pro-active? Prepare to be surprised…

Gurus and even psychologists give lip service to not being reactive.

They say it’s the ego’s way to take over your life. They suggest that you respond. They don’t know what they are talking about, and you, the client, suffer as a result.
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You think you know. You think you know who you are, what is important to you, what you want, and what and who is running your life.

This is your approach towards life. Through what you know…

Read the original article: You probably don’t know yourself as well as you think you do

Excerpts from the Book That Man Is Reading on the Subway

By Eva Victor

This is a funny companion piece to all the articles that talk about pretending and status. Laughing out loud funny… to me.
Preface
Welcome, Bearded Man with a Slouchy Beanie Riding the Subway. You are reading me, a book. I am the reason that everyone in this train car is looking at you. They are curious—a young man reading a book, in this day and age? He must have a good heart, they think. Your literary fluency is attractive, they decide. They imagine that you will sweep them off their feet with poems about soft lips, though, in reality, you haven’t brushed your teeth for longer than forty seconds since high school. If only they knew that you were reading this book, a placeholder book, to convince other people that you are reading.
Chapter 1: A Celebration Is in Order
You’ve made it to the first chapter, which means that you’ve turned one page. Time to celebrate this lofty achievement.
Chapter 4: A Good Chuckle on Behalf of the Fools
Ha! Despite this current attempt to gain the respect of commuting strangers, in your regular life, you are barely able to string a sentence together without betraying your stupidity. Most of what you say are the regurgitated opinions of your co-worker (and longtime Frisbee enthusiast) Benj. But no one on this train needs to know that. Here, you are the man who knows how to enjoy literature and probably loves his mother a lot, but not too much.
Chapter 7: You Are Getting Away with This
Blah blah blah blah. See? You’re technically reading! Who needs real books, anyway, now that you’ve got this meta book that’s convincing everyone that you’re on a quest to find the perfect tree trunk to lean up against? Sure, the truth is that you haven’t done laundry in two months because “the bank is far and no one else has quarters.” But forget that! You are getting away with this whole book thing. Maybe you should be a professor. A books professor.
Chapter 8: A History of Your Ignorance
It’s time to admit that the only book you’ve ever finished is “The Catcher in the Rye.” How incredible that the one protagonist you’re able to relate to is Holden Caulfield, a sad rich boy.
Chapter 12: An Actionable Step
Turn the page.
Chapter 13: A Commemoration of Your Action
Good work when you turned that page just now. You are surely convincing everyone. Smile benevolently. Now back to work.
Chapter 18: The Pivotal Moment
You can feel the eyes of a woman with wispy bangs, who is most likely an influencer, on you. Now, this is very important: act as if you are reading. Make sure that your eyes dart from left to right, fast enough to convince her that you are a seasoned reader but not so fast that your reading looks fake. This book is proving to be a true Cyrano de Bergerac, a character with whom you are, of course, unfamiliar.
Chapter 23: The Illusion of a Thought
Look away. Sigh once. Now look at these words again. The girl who loves non-milk milk wi

Read the original article: That man is reading a book, a real book, on subway. Funny

 How do I tame my fear of the unknown, the difficult, the tasks I need to do that I am ill-suited to do?

One day I’ll have an editor. Or maybe a brilliant assistant. Someone who is good at things I am lousy at.

I have major holes in my brain. It started with my brain development in the womb. I am on the autistic spectrum, an experiment of sorts. Then I had my two massive brain injuries… One in 1969 and one in 1998.

So I was never good at putting things to order. Time order… what needs to get done first and what needs to get done next. Even just thinking about that, the brain cells that would do that work start to hurt. So maybe I should exercise them… hm… that is an idea. Continue reading →

A higher state of being, a higher state of consciousness is when you are touched, moved, and inspired…
Let’s look at the word inspired first
People are writing to me claiming that they get touched, weepy from certain values. But when you look at their lives, that is an experience that does NOT inform their lives, only their eyes… Or maybe their ego, their mind?

What is inspired?

Read the original article: If it is NOT beauty, truth or goodness that inspires you

What do you use to win? To encourage you to not quit? to stay in the game?
In a private conversation, when I asked her to pick to model someone who has done what she hopes to do, a client picked Alex Hormozi… one of my favorite people on the planet.

His story is, on one hand, unique, on the other hand is standard entrepreneur story.

Read the original article: Want to model after the success of Alex Hormozi?

I was having an interesting conversation with one of my students.

Because he wanted to write his thesis on the Feelings book, an unknown entity, he needed to gain his thesis counselor’s support. And maybe even his enthusiasm. Or he was going to be alone… and it was going to be a tough road to hoe.

Read the original article: Who are you? Beauty, truth or goodness? Let’s find out

Money. Growth. Energy to exchange for more comfort. For more toys. More play. For more knowledge. For a longer and more interesting life.

All those are important, they are elements of Man’s purpose: to be expanding, growing. Continue reading →