According to Kabbalistic wisdom, the soul is not active in any of us until a certain age. 12 for girls and 13 for boys.
The soul’s job is to cause character, the soul’s job is to help you find out who you are. The Self.
Many of you have not managed to distinguish and build a Self.
A Self is your “I” that is independent and defensible from other people’s opinion, and from even your own opinion of you when you make mistakes.
I know this is a mouthful, so let me elaborate:
First aspect of a strong self: You have a strong Self, and someone says you are stupid, or you are brilliant… and your Self doesn’t get shaken up by that. Doesn’t feel a
There are good days, there are bad days, and there are days when I am hit with stuff I consider bad. Blech.
Today is one of those.
And days like this are a great test if in fact my TLD is as high as I claim as it is. TLD is your Twitchy Little Bastards’ score: how much pain you are willing to take for a delayed benefit.
Where TLD comes in? I find myself already running. I want to take a nap. I want to eat. I want to go unconscious.
Why? Because bad news is not pleasant. And more than that: I need to say it publicly.
I am scared, and I want to hide.
But I am going to swallow the frog (or was it kissing it?) and tell you what’s going on.
The inspiration to coach using Tai Lopez’s 67 steps came from one of my all time favorite books, the Neal Stephenson novel, Diamond Age.
In that novel, science fiction, far in the future, a scientist puts together an interactive book, a primer, for a rich and influential client’s grand daughter. And then he steals it… meaning: duplicates it without permission.
“To put the spring back into the old mattress” ((A woman said that in the movie The Dressmaker, as she ordered a new dress… if you can’t figure out what she meant… I am sorry for you.))
I heard that expression yesterday in a movie, and loved it. I wrote it down. Because that is what our work is about. Putting the spring back into the old mattress…
It could be said about you.
Most of you were happy little children once, even if life was tough. Even if bad things happened to you or around you. You jumped out of bed looking forward to the day ahead!
I remember I was, even though I had bad things happen to me.
As we saw, the two capacities, humility: (saying: I don’t know), and seeing the big picture/looking at the thing inside the big picture, are the most predictive of people who can and will correct their faulty mental picture of reality.
Of these humility is primary.
Humility is what gets us out of our head, and makes us look again.
The mood of this: maybe I didn’t see it right!
We all know people who didn’t look twice, and walked into a trap, walked into disaster with their heads high, no idea that the trap is there.
And how you do anything is how you do everything. So if that is you: it is all over the place for you, in every area of your life.
Curiosity… Hunger… appetite… sexual desire…are you killing them all?
Your parents, your teachers told you: don’t eat candy, don’t eat cookies before dinner: it will kill your appetite.
The five “hardware-type” needs, the needs for energy supply, information, safety, reproduction and group are guided by feelings… all a lot like hunger.
Hunger can be fulfilled with empty calories or good, nourishing food.
The need, the second most vital need is the hunger for information. We also call that curiosity. You can fulfill it, just like the first one, with junk.
Curiosity is one of the main factors when one wants to know how far someone can rise in anything… job, knowing, vibration.
Around the time when I graduated from Architecture School, my brother impregnated a woman 10 years his senior, who wanted to get married.
I recommended that he pay for her abortion and call it quits.
To my surprise he listened to me. (This is the phenomenon, when it is NOT pushing on a string… rare) I didn’t know why and how I knew that the woman just wanted to marry a Jewish boy… that it wasn’t for love, or for mutual support. I didn’t know I was an empath.
Knowing what is people hidden nature is a blessing, and is a burden. And an invaluable tool in coaching. You can’t lie to me…
Most people want to go down danger’s, death’s path… it is their path. Talking to them it is like pushing on a
We all have a need to fulfill others expectations of us, and also some of us have the need to fulfill our own expectations of ourselves.
Now, what if someone says something about you, or something that you like, find important, says something that conflicts with what you think about yourself, your self-image? Your “I” you consider your Self. (it isn’t… by the way)
Your experience is that you are devalued. ((devaluation. means The decrease in value of one currency in relation to another, usually by action of the government. When a currency is devalued, it buys less in foreign markets.))
Some countries need to manufacture a history for their people. Other countries created one by following a credo, an ethic, that is personally binding.
Father Geoffrey invented a history for England.
The question we’ll look at: can you invent greatness for another… Can a great path that doesn’t oblige have any positive influence on the person, or instead it will give them wrongful pride… “I am better than you” nationalist or racial superiority?
Let me examine the difference between the different stories of different peoples, so I can explain the difference between the individuals who hail from different cultures.
I am going to bumble my way through this… so expect this article to be a little chunky… I apologize ahea
Yesterday I shared with you the evolution of my Self. It’s like Beethoven’s Fifth… Victorious.
