The paradigm we live it has no access to happiness… no bridge, no path, no door… We are locked into unhappiness
I just hung up with my friend from university. ((Budapest Technical University, Architecture School, Class of 1971.)) Frenzied gossiping about Trump and the hopelessness of the future… Just like we would have done during the Second World War… An activity (gossiping, complaining, blaming, etc.) that will make no difference. But what will? What could?
I have to admit, this conversation lead to a turning point for me… and if and when I turn about-face, I can lead you to do the same… The turning wasn’t instant. But it is done. I am happy again.
It’s January, and a good large percentage of the searches on my site are for the mindset of money… People’s mind is on abundance this month… and it will stay there till April…
I have been observing people and businesses for decades. If you made it through March, then you probably made it another year… but the sense of impending doom begins in January.
I read a story about a woman who gave away ALL her money.
She was, a millionaire (or close to it) at the time. In any case, she came from money.
Her grandfather was a famous industrialist. Her parents had owned houses and property all over the world.
Thing is, this woman (who had been born into all this money and the lifestyle it afforded) didn’t feel
I came up with the expression “top 10% of your mind” many years ago, when I was teaching the What Color of Your Parachute workshop.
It is said that you only use 5% of your brain. But, of course, you use all of your brain most of the time, but not for something worth using a precision instrument even the stupidest person possesses.
The truth is that 99% of your usage, what you see, what you say about what you feel, what you think is not new, and not accurate and not worth thinking, because it leads to no benefit.
I have students that make this phenomenon very easy to observe.
If you put all their posts together, take out the repetitive stuff, you end up with
There is a Landmark Education distinction that no one gets…
It has a huge overlap with the distinction “you live in a world of your own design”.
This, the “you live in a world of your own design” is somewhat like the Law of Attraction: you attract what you are… but much deeper. It is BEING that, not feeling, or thinking only, though you may feel and think it as well.
But thinking and feeling don’t create being… the reverse, the opposite is tr
I am reading a book ((Return to the brain of Eden by Tony Wright and Graham Gynn. Truth value: 7%. Careful, that means 93% b.s. If it is such low truth value: why am I reading it? Because, as you’ll see later in this article, I can tell truth from falsehood, because I read with my right brain, I can get from the book what I need, and none of the b.s. You can’t… yet.
I just started the book, but my hunch, at this early on is that what they say about food is what’s off… )) that says that humans used to be able to live from their right-brain, meaning they were a lot more intelligent.
You need to get better, maybe even good at it. ((Unless you are a cat person and willing to risk that only people who can’t connect to anyone else will connect to you.
By the way, this may not be true for cats… Cats are a lot smarter than that.))
So here are a few “memes” I picked today.
When you distinguish something, the whole world seems to rotate around the thing you just distinguished, so feedback showed up everywhere.
And I got acknowledged by two people on the trip to the grocery store… so I am getting better too… lol.
OK, here are the pictures…. almost…
What should you do with them?
First off figure out, feel why they are feedback. To whom? Does the feedback apply to you? Are you the one giving it, or you could have gotten it your self?
Have you been ignoring it?
Is there a way you could take it a guidance?
Guidance to what?
You want to ask the question: Do I want to be the kind of person who needs this feedback?
And how it doesn’t mean to please everybody, or even one person. You’ll see…
Our language is so corrupt, it is hard to find a person who means what they say… I mean the words. You’ll see what meeting others’ expectation is… Not what’s on the illustrations… 🙁
The most willfully ignored need, in my experience, is the need to meet others’ expectation.
What prevents you from honoring that need is a misunderstanding. Or we could say: the mis-weighing bias. All biases are misunderstanding how things work, shortcuts that give you a different result than what you expected.
In not honoring but ignoring this need, your chances for success, your chances for love, for self-expression, for happiness are so greatly diminishe
If you are on this site, you will find yourself, more or less, in this article. And it may change your life.
A student writes,
Hi Sophie, I think I take trivial and superficial things too seriously. How can I let go of these immaterial incidents or people and focus on important things that truly matter to me?
I also find out that sometimes I become the victim of scams.
this was my answer
This is the sign of two things, Kate: 1. your map of reality isn’t very similar to reality. 2. you have too much importance attached to nice words about you… i.e. you want to be defined by words not by your actions.
It is the main reason I read the book Feelings, to f
I learned a new method of finding and following a mentor. You want to learn something, improve something, get something done. You find someone who can do what you can’t yet do. The link will be good till January 5 only…
You use the “compare and join” method: you compare what they do or how they do it, and find ONE THING that they do better to produce better results. You “join” them in doing that…
I don’t procrastinate. You could join me in that.
What? Procrastination is so “normal” that not procrastinating can put you into the mad-house… involuntary hospitalization. lol.
But this hidden agenda, to profit from every interaction, at your expense is not limited to the internet, it is just easier to see the dynamic there. It is harder to see it in person to person interactions, with every single person you interact with, or in books, articles, organizations, charity, politics, or people and their pets.
And it is hardest to see in yourself.
I am not condemning it: it seems that “desire for the self alone” is having a new renaissance, and you either don’t notice it, or are in a conspiracy for “I won’t tell on you, if you won’t tell on me.”
I am a person who is well trained to help people create a context for their lives, for their relationships, for their businesses… a context, words, a spea
The paradigm we live it has no access to happiness… no bridge, no path, no door… We are locked into unhappiness
