Being stuck with two diametrically opposing world views is tough, because often neither is going to take you where you could live a life worth living.
This podcast is a personal coaching session… chock full of nuts.
Some coarse language…
What is under the hood? being stuck… the real core issue
It’s worth it… Is it worth it? It’s not worth it… It is all about whether it is worth it for you or not…
If you are supposed to have it already, then working for it doesn’t look like it’s worth it.
And this is the problem, an epidemic, of today. I have students in all the time zones of the world… and they all share this problem.
Memes, thought forms, prevalent teachings suggest that
1. you are already happy, worthy, successful, precious, special, blah blah blah
2. that you already have everything or supposed to to be who you want to be
3. that you should look within for all the answers
4. that the Universe is friendly to you
and on and on and on, endless flow of half-truth, endless flow of decepti
What is the typical reason people don’t do anything with their lives?
What is the typical reason people don’t do anything with their lives?
That’s a loaded question, but it’s a valid question.
I have done a lot of observation and thinking on this.
I have come to the conclusion that the core issue is stinginess that results in scarcity thinking and scarcity behavior.
I will list a few variations: I am sure that you’ll find yourself…
This is how it goes:
- You don’t quite know what you want from your life. So you postpone doing anything until you know… which is never.
- You know what you want to achieve, what you want from your life, but there is no path that you can see. You
Why do we have an ego, and how can we make it really useful? You don’t have any part that is not useful!
I just had a “conversation” with a student, where I suggested that she uses ego to support her growth.
From her answers it has become clear that “using ego” is not a commonplace conversation, and that it needs instruction.
So let’s see what ego is, and what it isn’t.
Ego is a lot like a kitchen knife: you can use it for good, for useful, or for harm… kill with it. You can also use it to clean it under your nails… somewhat useful, but not the right tool…
You can also call it bad, and ban it from your house. ((It is also a lot like a nail. It concentrates the energy so it can go through thick planks
The biggest reason you are stuck… on a plateau or in a ditch, but stuck nevertheless
Regardless of what you do, how you do it, how good or bad your life is… you are always stuck… Stuck in some deep bad place, or stuck on a plateau… stuck is stuck.
So learning what keeps you stuck and how to unstuck yourself, at will, is one of the most important things you can do… and the sooner the better. Because being stuck is not fun.
Cognitive biases, those knee jerk reaction tiny pieces of automatic responses, are at the root of your misery.
Fear, unclarity, self-centeredness, belligerence… The main attitude is different. Not one person resembles another in what seems to block their path. It’s the coach’s brilliance, creativity, insight that will either make a difference or not. What is clear is this: unless someone or something helps them through… they will stay this side of the great barrier. Great responsibility, but I am up for it. What is the capacity I need to be OK with this responsibility? It is self-trust. Self trust says: I can dea Update: This article was written two years ago, and a lot has happened, but we never again addressed these life-suckers… Since we are working on anchor-to-doom and the actions necessary to live a life not determined by the doom… we probably will need to talk about these minor anchors… the topic of this article. These keep us stuck, suck our aliveness, curtail our successes, and make us inauthentic and pretending. So they are important. I think self-awareness is beyond that, self-awareness is a positional shift for the self that is aware. Positional meant in a physical sense, in a physical movement of the vantage point. It is one thing to feel from inside the body, and it’s another thing from observing it, as the body feels what it feels. If there are words to the feeling, then it is the Mind that is attempting to label the experience… but your Self is NOT your mind, it is not even near your mind. You also, the moment your mind labels the experience, stop feeling, and now consider the word as the experience, instead… Much like eating the menu in a restaurant, not the meal. I have watched people doing that… Go read the rest Go read the rest of the article http://www.yourvibration.com/12502/itch/
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