The allure to jump into doing is very strong. Or alternatively waiting… and doing nothing.
But “They” say: without action nothing happens. Some say: take lots of action, imperfect actions.
But no one is talking about looking, no one is talking about conscious awareness.
Conscious awareness is what separates a human from an animal.
When you are operating from the mind, you are not using conscious awareness.
The smoother a teacher ta
I mean this article to be the first installment in a series.
The underlying principle is the Anna Karenina principle
The Anna Karenina principle
The Anna Karenina principle is: good systems must meet simultaneously a number of requirements. All good systems are alike, bad systems are bad in their own way
Tolstoy said: Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way
Aristotle said: success/failure: …it is possible to fail in many ways (for evil belongs to the class of the
The fox and the hare tale: Why does a rabbit run faster than a fox? Because while the fox is running for his dinner, the rabbit is running for his life. All of life works the same way…
I have noticed that take-away, as a manipulation technique, works exceptionally well on me.
Here is how the technique works: you show something, and you state that it is only available at this price for a limited amount of time.
I find myself scrambling to get it.
I saw something really important this morning.
One of my students is planning to build a business that he can do while working for a big corporation full time.
He knows what he wants to do. He knows why he wants to do it. He has the skills: he is good at it. If he gets a client: the client will be happy.
But… having a product, a service, is one thing. Selling it is another thing.
To sell anything doesn’t need you to be good at doing the service, or creating a good product.
Selling is a whole other business.
You either need a partner who can sel
Did you notice that we are not talking here about IQ? About ability?
No, the behavior ascribed to the stupid and the behavior of the wise can and often come from the same IQ.
The ability to do things differently can’t be accessed without a modicum of humility. Modicum means: a little bit.
Humility is a capacity, an attitu
One of the things I learned in Landmark, ((in the year long Relationship Course,)) is that there is physical development, and there is emotional, ethical, moral development each person needs to go through to become a fully functioning adult.
It was brand new information to me and it blew my mind.
It was new to me in spite of the fact that I was educated, having read thousands of books… even about child psychiatry, and yet, it was an earth shattering revelation to me.
I, like other people, thought that children were born with the capacity to understand why ce
Let’s look at the role of discovery in growth… your growth… if there is no growth, there has been no discovery.
All the steps of the 67 steps program are nudges for you to discover something that you haven’t seen.
Of course, like with everything, your tendency is to go to your head for the answers, and not look at all outside of your head.
The step (Step 5) where the homework is to list what you see about poor people and rich people is a great step to show your relationship to growth.
If you think you are rich, you go and tell me how what you do, how you think,
In the past four months that I have been able to turn on individual capacities for people, I have received no request to turn on trust.
Why is that?
After all people, rightly, asked me for self-trust. But self-trust won’t be enough.
So what can be the current world view with regards to trust, that trust doesn’t come up as number one to turn on.
Because, whether you know it or not, without trust there is no winning. Without trust there is no flow. Without trust there is no fulf
I am reading Richard Dawkins’ The Selfish Gene. The genes that use humans as vehicles, and are only interested in procreation, and not in the life experience of the vehicle.
But, as I have said before, there are 160 intangible capacities, mostly dormant, in the human DNA. The ones that we are going to look at in this article are the capacities (genes) of generosity (altruism) and trust.
Trust and generosity seem to be at odds with the selfishness of the genes… but they don’t have to be.
The most popular image I have on Instagram says: Arrogance is weakness disguised as strength.
Now, why this is worth writing about?
Because it is the tip of the iceberg of something really important.
We have spoken about the selfish gene. For the gene you are a survival vehicle only. And a person, who is not related to you, is competition, rival… and in your gene’s way to make more copies of itself.
I know this is unfamiliar territory, but please bear with me, because where it is taking us is worth going to… so patience… you don
