Is that a distraction? Does that get me closer to my target?One of the big issue I see with people is this:
You have big desires… but you don’t consider doing the things you have to do to attain them worth your while.
Catch 22.
Your desire for comfort and doing nothing conflicts with your desire for what you say you desire.
Something has to give.
I got lucky today. I got to see something I haven’t seen in a long time.
It’s been many years that I “shared” with anyone.
Sharing is a Landmark Education distinction: you talk about some gain in your life, in a particular way, and if you did it well, the other person gets a tiny bit more than just a whiff of what you are “sharing”; they get a taste of it. A taste of your gain…As if you’ve given them a bite of your triple chocolate fudge cake… lol.
We were both early for the exercise class, and she was really relieved that she wasn’t going to be the only student…
As I was changing to shorts, and gym shoes, I asked if it would be OK with her if I bragged..
You want the good life… Creating the good life, health, wealth, love and happiness, will require creativity from you… ((This is the biggest difference between the age of The American Dream and today… then some work was enough… today just work is not enough.))
The opposite of creativity is timidness. ((And cowardice, and complacency, and having your hand out, and hoping that other people will do it for you. Am I describing you?))
Creativity is living at risk… Existential courage. ((Existential Courage
The antidote to the comfortable coma
The other day I stumbled across an ad for a workshop helping you to release your intuition. It used the standard approach to sellin
Some people come around at some point. Some sooner than others.
The ones that come around tell me that after a while they actually could see what I pointed out. I respect them for that.
Ever since I embraced being stupid, integrated it into my personality, stupid became a phase rather than a conclusion.
What do I mean? Listen up, this is important!
When you look at something, you see what you see. (Same with hearing!) You see wh
There is not much in common. It is not talent. It is not ethnicity. Not personality. Not schooling. Not religious affiliation.
The one common characteristic I have found is books. People who become worth a damn are readers.
Even more importantly than being a reader: the most important commonality is when they started to read.
I just read in Wikipedia about Howard Zinn:
Both parents were factory workers with limited education when they met and married, and there were no books or magazines in the series of apartments where they raised their children. Zinn’s parents introduced him to literature by sending ten cents plus a coupon to the New York Post for each of the 20 volumes of Charles Dickens’ collect
Yesterday’s article was the tree that fell in the forest that didn’t make a sound. No one was there to hear it. Many read it, no one heard it. No echo. ((And I predict the same will happen to this article… lol. Catch me giving a hoot…))
Why? How come?
Probably because you were reading it from the rarefied air of positivity. Or some other filter blocked the genius and the simplicity of the blueprint I was so very proud of.
I actually knew that this was the best article I have EVER written. But it made no echo.
Why? Really why?
In my last Talk to Me call I asked one of my students to get angry. And do it in any language he wishes.
Because without anger you can’t ac
Continued from the previous article…
Sometimes the turmoil is caused by some inner pressure that is societally driven.
When being true to yourself is not politically correct.
Your ability, your capacity to hold controversy and ambivalence comes really handy when you have a turmoil.
Why? Because the urge to call the turmoil wrong, and the urge to look for a fix is overwhelming if you don’t have that capacity, that emotional and spiritual maturity.
And most people don’t.
Having the capacity to hold the idea and the opposite, without being overly perturbed is a very high capacit
“The iron rule of nature is: you get what you reward for. If you want ants to come, you put sugar on the floor.”
~ Charles T. Munger
Let’s reverse engineer this quote.
You could look at it straight… and see nothing.
You look at it in reverse, and a whole world opens up.
This is true to all of Charlie Munger’s quotes… they show their true colors, their true teachings in reverse.
So. let’s see… Look at wha
Like so many things, guidance is a blessing… and a curse.
So is coaching, by the way.
You can’t catch what you can’t see, and you can’t correct what you can’t catch…
So, this past week has been, thank you for asking, pure hell… lol.
Why, what went wrong? It would be shorter to list what didn’t… lol
Now, apart from a 10-minute period, while I was on the phone with an overly tired and uncaring support staff this morning… I have been having fun.
Yes. Challenges? Yes. Hard issues? Yes. Expensive… Yeah.
Something I can’t handle? No.
I won’t bore you with the details, I will share just one because it is not personal at all…
While all this was going on
I started to read the book by Edward Deci, “Why we do what we do. Understanding self-motivation”.
This is the first book, that I know, that defines self the way, or similarly the way I do…
To become a person, to have autonomy, self-determination, self-expression, integrity, self-motivation, the most important job is to find the self, by distinguishing what is the driver of all your actions, whether it is inner or outer.
And if it is inner… is it the self, or is it the “not-self”?
Greed, narcissism, hate… area inner motivators, but they are all the not-self. So are all the “negative” emotions, like frustration, haste, the desir