From the questions you ask, I am starting to understand what is your current world-view, self-view:
You think you are, using car analogy, a Kia or a Saturn or some other cheap car, and you want to be a Ferrari.
What if you are a Ferrari and you drive yourself as if you were a Kia?
Go read the rest of the article http://www.yourvibration.com/14296/real-problem/