How old is your child self that is running your life to the ground?

What is an adult, what is a child… and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are? ((One of the distinctions, fields: what field is this interaction which we learned about a year ago, is closely related to Transactional Analysis ego states… very educational…))

In the starting point measurements I measure (#19) To what degree you have access to your adult capacities. ((1. your vibration (1-1000):
2. your overall intelligence, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, body, relationship, etc.:
3. the number of spiritual capacities you hav

Why Most People Will Remain in Mediocrity

Most people will never become truly successful.

“It’s lonely at the top. 99% of people are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for mediocre. The level of competition is thus fiercest for ‘realistic’ goals, paradoxically making them the most competitive.”

-Tim Ferriss

Most people will never be truly successful.

The pull towards mediocrity is too strong. As David Schwartz once penned, “All around you is an environment that is trying to pull you down to Second-Class Street.”

Most people will never escape the pull.

Much of the thinking around us is small-minded. Most people are overly conce

I don’t feel like writing an article today…

I don’t feel like writing an article. It feels like unless I am careful, I am slipping into a depressed state. This happens around Daytime Savings Time… I get confused and sleep too much. And the body decides that … Continue reading → Related Posts: The essence of teaching is that someone learns, not the […]

I never had to really learn it… so how I teach you to live in reality? The 13th floor

This article will be deemed self-aggrandizing, or something of that sort… and I don’t care. Truth is truth…

I am 69 years old.

I have lived, this is a 20/20 hindsight, my entire life on the 13th floor. Two months ago I would not have said that: I didn’t know there is such a thing…

Having live there all my life: I am having a real tough time to say how I got there… because I never lived on the 14th or the 15th floor… the 13th floor is reality, based on your sensory organs, not on thought.

My brothers did live on the 14th floor. Both. My father also lived on the 13th floor. My mother didn’t.

The biggest difference, looking through my own eyes now, is the meanings. On the 14th

Take back your power, take back your freedom, take back your peace of mind

Starting tomorrow… at 4 pm.

Why it is nearly impossible to change… unless…

Landmark Education has a process for leaders called clearing.

Clearing is probably the most effective tool to, at least temporarily, allow for change.

Clearing is saying, listing, everything that is in the way of change… with the intention to question its trueness, question its validity.

People watch you, listen to you, and depending on their own attitude, they hear dumping, they hear gossiping, they hear complaining.

But the intention, the

No energy? Likely you are Twitchy Little Bastard… A Marshmallow eater…

This morning I am running on fumes… (or how to increase your Twitchy Little Bastard ((TLB – Twitchy Little Bastard; a person who is counterproductively anxious for results. Who has no ability to control his urges…)) score)

Some activities fill you up, some activities drain your energy.

One of the most important capacities one can develop is to tell the difference… and start managing one’s energy.

Sometimes you give your energy to another and get back nothing… Maybe money, but money does not fill you up. Money does not give you energy. It may buy groceries… but even groceries only give you physical energy.

The depletion is of psychic energy, of spiritual energy, of intellectual energy.

What did you get for yourself for Christmas?


What did you get for yourself for Christmas?

I have been seeing that everyone is trying to make a last sale to spruce up the bottom line. This sale and that deal…

I ponder if the distaste I have for haggling and pitching and forcing people to buy is going to render me, forever on the poor side.
As long as you hand over your money to the loudest vendor… yeah, predictably.

The funny thing is: I have bought a few of these fantastic headphones that are an all-in-one mp3 player and headphone.

I listen to the 67-steps on one. I listen to the da

The real reason why you are not happy, not fulfilled, not peaceful… and how to turn it around, maybe

contingent-happinessIf you found out that all the wrong turns, mistakes you made in your life… probably thousands, you made them because you didn’t see what there was to see.

A number of years ago, one leader in Landmark Education said: Most people either don’t sign up or quit as soon as they see it.

See what? You ask…

See that the solution to the issues of their lives, the decisions that would have taken them to success were there, but they didn’t see them.

I didn’t see them, and you didn’t see them.

Moreover… no matter how many times I notice that I didn’t see something, the fact doesn’t change: I don’t see what is there… I see something else.

It’s my 45th anniversary that I graduated from architecture school. I am old…

01-livewelllakewoodIt put me into a walk-down memory lane mood, and I revisited some events in my life I haven’t remembered in decades.

For example the only person I ever saw as compatible, left after a few weeks, without saying good bye.

I could grieve it, but I think it was fortunate. I loved him too much…

When you love someone or something too much, you put your own self interest on hold, and become a slave to that person or thing…

In hindsight this is why I was so disproportionately captivated and mortified by a “Criminal Minds” episode, where the wo

Osho: The art of walking the tightrope

tightropeIn this series of Osho talks he examines stories from different ancient cultures. This is an excellent companion to what I teach. Enjoy!

ONCE, WHEN THE HASIDIM WERE SEATED TOGETHER
IN ALL BROTHERLINESS,
PIPE IN HAND, RABBI ISRAEL JOINED THEM.
BECAUSE HE WAS SO FRIENDLY THEY ASKED HIM,
‘TELL US, DEAR RABBI, HOW SHOULD WE SERVE GOD?’

HE WAS SURPRISED AT THE QUESTION,
AND REPLIED, ‘HOW SHOULD I KNOW?’

BUT THEN HE WENT ON TO TELL THEM THIS STORY..
THERE WERE TWO FRIENDS OF THE KING,
AND BOTH WERE PROVED GUILTY OF A CRIME.

SINCE HE LOVED THEM THE KING WANTED TO SHOW THEM MERCY,
BUT HE COULD NOT