Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them 1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. … Continue reading “Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them” Related […]
How could you become ready to grow?
I am using Rob Brezsny’s words here… maybe his English communicates better than mine: ANTI-INSTRUCTIONS Exaggerate your flaws till they turn into virtues Pretend your wounds are exotic tattoos Refuse the gifts that infringe on your freedom Shun sacred places … Continue reading → Related Posts: Happiness is wanting what you have All you can […]
The Juice Exercise: what gives you “juice” in life?
I have been coaching people for many years now. The goal was always to take people on a journey to become their best Self.
Now, the task is easier when someone knows who they are. When someone has a Self.
Most people don’t. They have a persona for each group they interact with, the family persona, the student persona, the friend, the gossiper, the entertainer, the this and the that.
Those personas (roles you play) are not you. They were created by a perceived demand in the circumstances, a perceived demand in the environment.
They leave you empty, they leave you being jerked by the
The deathbed exercise
There is a step in the 67 step program that wants you to look at what would be your obituary if you died today.
But there is a much better test, the test:
imagining yourself being on your deathbed: a thought exercise.
Until today I’d thought that what it drives up is all the things you haven’t done, all the things that are important and maybe you can do now… tell people you love them, and other trite things like that.
But today of all days I had an insight.
The insight came because I was trying to figure out what is in common in people who do the 67-step program w
Shock Therapy
The strongest motivator for me is to think what it would be like on my deathbed if I died today. I always take several actions every time I imagine the scenario and my regrets. Here is a video that says it better than I could ever say. I bet you’ll have several actions as soon as you watch it. ZD YouTube FLV Player