The hardest pull to resist is the pull of your “how” nature. Or what type of activity do you rush into… headfirst…

actions-over-wordsThe hardest pull to resist is the pull of your “how” nature. Or what type of activity do you rush into… headfirst… That activity can be four kinds… four conative types, four types of conative actions… reading, planning, action, and execution.

Scientific name for your “how” is Conation. It is innate, and it is NOT changeable.

Regardless… I have been looking at taming my own… I find that it is not tamable. It is what it is.

But I have come to suspect that what you do after you do what your Conation makes you do is when the magic happens.

You see, all people belong to three types. People who make things happen, people who watch things happen, and people who wonder what happened. But

How is living is like writing a book? Good writing is re-writing…

writers-gif2Let’s see how you write… and then we’ll see how you live your life.

Most people first-draft-people… they never re-write. Others carefully craft the format, but don’t touch what they said… the content. And then others wait until they think they have something profound to say… and that is rarely.

All good writing is re-writing. Both writing literature and “writing”, crafting your life, your story. ((Most people never re-write. They present their first draft in everything. A real good secret of how not to amount to anything or much)) If you are not willing to write badly you are not willing to write well either. And if you can’t see that your first draft is bad, you will never look at it again.

In this arti

On fools and wise people… the fool never learns…

isocrates-quote“It is more important to know where you are going than to get there quickly. Do not mistake activity for achievement.”

I am old. And pretty much alone in the world. Not lonely. Alone.

How I do is entirely up to me. No support system, no cushion, flying without a net.

The notion has different effect on people. The effect is on their actions… or more precisely, on the attitude with which they take the actions.

A day after the election, regardless of who won, your job is to return to what is YOUR job

concern-v-control

It was time for self-reflection today. I am almost done with it.

I have come to the conclusion that it is time to pay attention to what I can control, what is within my control, and give little or no attention to what I can’t… where emotions would run high, fear, anger, concern… for me.

I noticed something today about some of the most successful people I know… which might help you…

Can you guess at how they might have responded to the election?

They did not respond the way that most Clinton supporters did.

And they did not respond the way that most Trump supporters did.

They did something different to the majority… because the crowd tends to be wrong. What makes us, as h

Want the good life? Use the Edge effect. Finding your niche where you can win. living life creatively

theodore-roosevelt-quoteYou want the good life… Creating the good life, health, wealth, love and happiness, will require creativity from you… ((This is the biggest difference between the age of The American Dream and today… then some work was enough… today just work is not enough.))

The opposite of creativity is timidness. ((And cowardice, and complacency, and having your hand out, and hoping that other people will do it for you. Am I describing you?))

Creativity is living at risk… Existential courage. ((Existential Courage
The antidote to the comfortable coma

The other day I stumbled across an ad for a workshop helping you to release your intuition. It used the standard approach to sellin

How to Learn Many Things at Once… very useful if you are in my coaching program

learn-new-thingsThere’s so much you want to learn, need to learn, should learn… so much, in fact, that you don’t know where to start.

Most people get inspired for some goal, sprint at max effort for 1-2 weeks, burn out, push the goal into the back of their mind, and never touch it again. New Year’s resolutions are a classic example. Campaigning.

Let’s look at how to improve your chances of success.

  • First things first—check your bases.

    The first thing you should do is touch base with yourself. Ask: “Is what I want what I want?”

    I know that is a funky question… of course… but ask it anyway! It may not be necessarily so!

    Sometimes, we lie to ourselves about what we want. Other times, we are

Do you know what no feelings mean? You are dead…

cultural differences. in the west people take pictures, in Japan they move the train.

Do you know what no feelings mean? You are dead… While you are alive life is ups and downs, good feelings, bad feelings, neutral feelings.

The fact that you can’t feel your feelings doesn’t mean they aren’t there…

Yesterday was a weird day.

First I fell victim to taking things personally. I’d like to say it was funny, but taking things personally is not fun.

The whole day passed without a single email, and also without most of my regular clients and students visiting my site. I was checking.

Late afternoon I started to contemplate that I have lost my customers.

Then I look

You want it effortlessly… Want thrilling, want pleasure, want abundance…

surviving the weekI read a lot of books. About 100 books a year. Cover to cover. I don’t subscribe to Tai’s reading method…

I left a 2000 book library when I left Hungary. that was 34 years ago.

Every book is an opportunity to shatter my view of the world. And many do. Sometimes not directly… sometimes through the effect the book has on other people.

This is what is happening with this book I am currently reading, The Upside of Your Dark Side. And previously with the book “Curiou

Some weird health and eating questions that defy common knowledge… or how I got well and thin

fat-burning-metabolismOne of my clients is unwilling to take Omega 2 capsules, because he says: “I don’t want to get fat”

I first started to experiment with the fat burning metabolism some six years ago.

I liked the idea of eating sugar free ice cream from real cream…

I packed on 30 lbs, 13-14 kilos, in 10 days.

I have been eating a stick of butter a day, fatty lamb, and eggs… for two months now.

I am dropping between half a pound to a pound a week.

I feel good. I do have some carbohydrate cravings and I satisfy it by eating peppers, and almonds. Both slightly sweet. just enough to stop the cravings. A gram here and there…

I have tested: eating just one

What is digestion, and why you should know that, intimately?

digestion-illustration_acs_webAre you planning a cleanse? purging? A drastic change of diet? Based on what? Ignorance?

You can’t be well, you can’t be happy, you can’t be sharp if you are not well inside!

One of the reasons today’s human suffers is this: you have delegated most if not all decision making to “experts”… and you hoped that you would never have to know anything about those areas of life and you’d be safely and nicely taken care of.

A step on delegation in the 67 steps begs to differ.

Unless you have at least cursory and accurate knowledge in what you are