A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: “I am blind, please help.” There were only a few coins in the hat. A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words.
How Does Your Personality Effect YOUR Life?
How does your personality effect your life? Some 44 years ago, when I was in high school, and a celebrity of sorts, I was presented with a lesson that did not land until just today. Back in 1963, my friend, Pamacs an I, applied to a talent show. She sang, I sang, she could strum the guitar, I was an accomplished guitar player. We opted to sing two Neil Sedaka songs, in English, instead of my native Hungarian. We stayed in the competition for quite a few rounds, and became everyone’s favorite Bambi. Duo, as we called ourselves. I have seen photos taken from the Television show, and we looked sweet, fresh, and just adorable. Everyone who watched TV watched that show: that was the only TV station in Hungary, back in the olden days 😉 Every Saturday, Pamacs showed up at our house, and we went dancing. She danced the whole evening, I danced maybe two songs. At the end of the night hordes of boys wanted to walk her home, no one cared about me. I was prettier than Pam. I was dumbfounded… Fast forward a few years… a few months ago Pam got in touch with me: the magic of the Internet. She now lives in London, married to a famous and absolutely smashing guy, step mother of an Oscar Best Actress winner, has a striving psychology counseling practice. I am not married (have never been), live alone, so you see, the story continued as it started. What is the difference between Pam and myself? If you guessed: her personality, you guessed it right. So that means that I am screwed, right? Now, I happen to agree with you, but we are both wrong. Potentially… Because in my new course, to be released soon, “Design Your Winning Personality” I have good news for you! You are not stuck with your personality, warts and all… You have built it, you can build another one. One that will get you what you want, the right guy/gal, the right job, the right connections, the right income, the right mood: happiness. Let me ask you a question: if you could change anything about yourself: what would you change? What do you think would happen different in your life, if you could successfully changed that? Please post a comment below. Looking forward to hearing your answers. xoxo Sophie PS: In my next post I will write about a real-life example, another friend of mine’s… how she changed from a needy wallflower to a married, happy, successful architect. Tags: personality,+persona,+character,+nice+person , winning , persona , the+face+of+your+business , mindset , change
Law of Attraction vs. Victim Mentality… Choose!
I want to address the phenomenon of the Law of Attraction vs. ” victim mentality ” in today’s post. Most of us interpret the Law of Attraction as a kind of ” Cosmic Soup Kitchen ” where you sit at a table, a waitperson comes and takes your order, and then you wait for your order to come. Sometimes your order comes, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes you get something totally different, something that you didn’t want. Some people’s order comes faster than yours, some others’ slower, or never. It all seems random, and capricious. Like the Universe is playing a game with you . Frustrating to most, happy and great for some. It seems like there are chosen people, or lucky, and something invisible marks YOU as the one who should never get ahead, never get what you want. You follow the instructions in The Secret, and still nothing. You can taste the sweet success as you are playing it in your mind’s eye, over and over again. Still, Nothing. I will turn to MY major source of wisdom, the Kabbalah, or the Book of Splendor (The Zohar). Why? Because it has an answer that I have seen working, all the time. The answer to this above dilemma is explained in the scene where Moses is leading the Israelites out of Egypt, they reach the shores of the Red Sea, and the Pharaoh’s army is in close pursuit, breathing down their neck. The Israelites drop on their knees, and cry out to The Creator. A voice comes out of nowhere and says: Why are you praying? Go into the water! Moses and the Israelites start walking into the water, that gets deeper and deeper, until it reaches their chin. Then they walk some more, and the waters split, and they can walk across to the other side.When the Pharaoh’s army gets there, the waters already seal themselves, and the Israelites are safe. Interesting story, but it is much more than a story. It is the key to activating the Law of Attraction: after you pleace your “order” in the “Cosmic Kitchen,” you need to get into action with certainty, that what you ordered is a done deal. That act of certainty and courage is what finally activates the Law. Waiting won’t. Now, I know that the missing piece is really, really, really, courage. Or better with capitized: Courage. I have been of the opinion, after coaching thousands, that the world suffers from courage deficiency. Courage deficiency is much like calcium deficiency… you cannot assimilate calcium if you don’t have Vitamin C, or if your stomach acid is too weak. And you will flush your calcium if you don’t have some other minerals… I can’t remember, maybe Magnesium? The same is with Courage. What is taking up the space that Courage should occupy? I say: Fear. I say: mostly unidentified Fear. Because, at least some of us, idle, not acting courageously, don’t know we are afraid. We seem to be reasonable, justified by the economy, by lack of time, lack of knowledge, whatever. If we knew we are afraid, we would at least have a choice about summoning courage… In my absolutely favorite movie, “Defending Your Life” our hero, played by Albert Brooks, accidentally activates Courage, by seeing that he will spend of the rest of his lives without Julia, played by Merryl Streep, and that is so unbearable, that his courage kicks in, maybe the first time in his life. But it changes how things go from there… he gets what he always wished for, the girl of his dreams. Now, we could all wait for a circumstance like that, or activate Courage by being a Powerful Manager ™ in your own life. Let’s return to the imagery I set up with Moses and the Red Sea: I had a realization today, that my MO (modus operandi) is such that I need to be thrown into the water, and THEN I “invent” swimming. Planning and then acting is not my MO. But unfortunately, for the most part, there is no one to throw you into the water. So you need to do it… So that is my / your next step, to become brilliant at that… Because going into the water is not an event: every day, when you wake up, you need to do it again. I call this being a Powerful Manager ™ in your life: put yourself into a situation where it is either swim or sink… and then start swimming. The style of swimming won’t matter: only that you swim. Your instinct will kick in, and you will swim and “take it home” whatever you were going after. The Universal Law of Attraction activates itself with that courageous act of throwing yourself into the water. What seems to be YOUR biggest stumbling block to activating The Law Of Attraction? Use the comment form to share…
What’s the difference between a presidential candidate and an internet marketing guru?
American citizens, eligible to vote, are divided. But whether you will vote to Obama, McCain, or stay at home and let others decide, one thing is certain, no one is looking at the real issue: The skill it takes to win the votes of the majority, i.e. win an election is a very different skill from the skill of running a country. Unless running it to the ground qualifies as running it…. 😉 as we have experienced, time and time again. Just like in politics, the same is true for teaching anything, including internet marketing. The skill it takes to be a successful internet marketer is a vastly different skill from the skill of causing another person’s success. We all look to our guru to teach us what to do and how to do it, so that we can be successful like them, and we all get very frustrated and very weary, because what they say and what they do are often different, and even if and when we did exactly what they said to do, we meet with meager success. How come? We seem all very surprised. Well, let me ask you this: have you ever heard of a successful football or basketball coach that played real well? Or the reverse: have you ever heard of a successful player that was also a great coach? Most successful players play from their “other than conscious mind.” Their conscious mind doesn’t know what they are doing: they feel their way. They say that chess masters use their other than conscious mind to play with lightening speed, that their conscious mind doesn’t even comprehend. I play freecell (a computer game). In the beginning I looked and looked, and only made moves that made sense to me. As the years passed, I am catching myself that when I give my other than conscious mind a good look at the computer screen with the game open, it knows what to do and wins the game for me. Thank you other than conscious mind. So what does this have to do with internet marketing? Unfortunately, a lot. They say internet marketing is simple but not easy. If we stay with the freecell computer game, the moves are real simple. but it is rare that someone can score a 100. why? Because you can make the simple moves ONLY in a certain order, and be successful at the same time. The pull to pick the low hanging fruit, and make the easy moves first, will certainly get you in trouble. And here are we, back where we started: The advantage of a good teacher is to give us a step by step plan… which the chess-master type guru can’t. He never did what he did consciously, so he can’t give you the plan. So what is the solution? What can a ‘guru’ give you that will make you succeed? I have come up with two possible solutions that look hopeful: 1. give people chunks of ready made pieces of the puzzle, and a simple assembly plan. i.e. do it FOR them. 2. give people and environment where they can do it with others, and guide them I am going to give you solution #1 today. I have prepared for you six websites, each designed to self-run itself and become successful with just a little help from you. And I have prepared for you a marketing goldmine: 103 different small and big strategies that you can follow to help nature in its work, and make the sites more successful, even take them to the top.
There Is Something Wrong Here… The Human Virus
Human Being, perfect after its kind. This is a loose translation of what the bible says. When we look at ourselves and our lives, this is a nonsensical statement: we don’t feel perfect after our kind, we feel flawed, our lives don’t work, or at least not the way we want it, our bodies don’t work the way we envision perfection. So what’s up with that statement? How can it be true and so wrong at the same time
Internet Marketing Beginnings
I had an inspiration this morning: I woke up early. I made myself a cup of tea, went back to bed, and read a little. About an hour later I woke up from a dream of writing THIS article. Here it is, just the way it came to me in my dream:
Are You A Knucklehead?
Hey, when you are being a knucklehead… does it mean, you ARE a knucklehead? Or you are just doing the only exercise most people do: jumping into conclusions. Listen if you can recognize yourself in these stories: A lot of my clients
Gratitude, Ambition, Competitiveness, Success
These are tough times. And many of us are feeling it in our wallets. But .. No matter how tough times are, we can’t forget the basics. And the subject definitely is one of the basics. And, without the basics taken care of, how can you get started? Below is one of the best articles […]
Yes? No? What is the truth about success in Internet Marketing?
Once you enter a new paradigm, many of the old behaviors and beliefs will show up as a definitive blockages, barriers to fully live and benefit from the paradigm shift. One could think that to enter the paradigm of success is enough, but my experience with myself and clients has shown that until you start practicing the actions that come from the world-view of the new paradigm, only your “head” will live in the new zone, your body and your circumstances will lag behind.
How To Melt an 800K Debt? Begin it like this…
I am reading Abraham/Hicks: The Power of Deliberate Creation. I find one fundamental thing really useful, and I am surprised that this is the first time it occurs for me anywhere, but then again, I watch my students, watch my clients, and a I am no longer surprised.