It’s Christmas Eve. Strong Southern wind… unusual noises… and bouts of wanting to weep. WTF? There is nothing wrong with my life, I am not connected to anyone in particular, and yet.
I muscle test if it is the Dark Side emotion transmission, and yes, it is…
Feelings come from who knows where, and yet, YOU are basing all your decisions on feelings. How utterly misguided is that?
If the feeling were: you can do it, you’d jump i
What are skills?
Don’t feel stupid, 99% of all people have no idea what skills are. This is one of the secrets that make people stuck in the dead end job they are in… not knowing what skills are, and not knowing what their skills are.
Skills are abilities, true and tried abilities you have used and used them well enough to succeed.
Skill means: you can do something. well enough.
Driving is a skill. Cooking is a skill, Shoppin
There is a huge misunderstanding that most of you are the victim of: thinking that you need to be ready to do something, that you need to get rid of fear or discomfort to do something.
One of my clients is dealing with an issue. To solve the issue, I asked him to talk to people in the same kind of business as his, to pick their brains what to do in the winters when there is no snow… i.e. there is no business, no revenue… and he still has to pay his employees.
He is afraid. I get that. But he is not doing wha
One of the things that immediately de-fuses an explosive situation, being frazzled, stress, etc. is accurately identifying what is going on, where you are at.
It takes stepping outside of the situation, looking at it from there, to identify what is going on.
You may have over committed… and so you are overwhelmed
You may have made promises without consulting the people you live with, and so your are out of integrity
You may be trying to prove that you are special… so you are in greed
etc.
Once you see exactly what the situation is, restoring peace, restoring calm, restori
Movies with good actors do it better…
American actors are mostly useless, but it may be because American directors have no empathy? And yet some of the most missing feelings I got from American TV series I have watched through Netflix. I have recently learned family love, and being able to choose, ultimately, what is win-win… in a series I am watching now, Blue Bloods about a Irish family of cops in New York City. I also had a peek at something I didn’t know I wanted to feel: how religion is for people who have faith…
I don’t know if it is the actors or the di
Most people are stuck… movement is not possible. It can be total or it can be partial.
To see where you are stuck is difficult, because the cause, the stuck part can be several layers deep.
A skilled coach or therapist may fail to find the linchpin issue, because in the normal course of a therapy, it is talking, the words, that are masking it.
One of my students in the Reclaim program has chosen to work with the idea of inspiring movies. Using movies to unstuck pe
In this article I will talk about DNA capacities activation.
Let’s talk about the failures, people where in spite of my effort, the capacities did not activate…
Let me start with the accusations a commenter threw at me/us: that the positive results may be due to time spent with me, instead of DNA capacities getting active in you.
I would ask the same question, and have.
I have now reliably pegged, identified the people that will, every time, provide me with glowing testimon
As I am dealing with the issue of courage, I realized something that I had never quite seen before:
All the quotes, all the memes, all the nice sayings on the internet have one function only: to make you stay the same.
And by same I mean driven by ego, fear, cowardice, slothfulness, superiority, pretense… etc.
Now, that is a bold statement, after all those quotes and memes, and nice sayings, and even coaching claim and sound and look inspiring. And therein lies the mischief:
They suggest that you can just simple want it more, choose it, believe it and then you can have it… whatever the
Your smarts don’t live in your brain. Comparing brains is a favorite job of scientist, but they are on the wrong track.
Instead they should ask questions that relevant… I wonder why they don’t think to answer relevant questions.
Questions like what happens when a really smart man has a daughter? How come that women, in general, are less capable, less able to make it in the world?
And the answer doesn’t live in the brain: it lives in the DNA.
Children inherit a combination of their parents’ DNA. A child can be smart, even brilliant as a potential, socialization will force
I have been re-reading Dan Millman’s The Life You Were Born To Live.
I don’t know why I am reading it, but here is what I have found that is worth mentioning: