Can you be crying and be unphased? Does the White Lotus cry?

the white lotus, the symbol of being unphasedCan you listen to insults to your family, your god, your country and be unphased?

Can you watch death and grieving and be unphased?

I am unphased 91% of the time. Very few things pull me out of the equilibrium, where I need to recover so I can return to being well and unphased. All of them I self-created, none of them are real.

I cry a lot. I feel people’s grief, I feel centuries old sadness, I feel the pain of not being allowed to grow, or even to live.

I am re-reading an book about the story of a family, the Levis, through 800 years

The difference between feeling confident and being confident… or how you put your life in the hands of a liar

feelings-are-just-visitors-let-them-come-and-go-quote-1It’s Christmas Eve. Strong Southern wind… unusual noises… and bouts of wanting to weep. WTF? There is nothing wrong with my life, I am not connected to anyone in particular, and yet.

I muscle test if it is the Dark Side emotion transmission, and yes, it is…

Feelings come from who knows where, and yet, YOU are basing all your decisions on feelings. How utterly misguided is that?

If the feeling were: you can do it, you’d jump i

Soul Correction: I am such a giving person, why do people hate me?

A student of mine lives in the same town as I do and for a while he used to drive me around to do errands.

Then I realized that it made him feel entitled to insult me on calls, so I put an end to that arrangement.

That was about two months ago.

He sent me a few emails offering rides, etc.

We even spent a few good times doing “exploring your own neighborhood” type of things, like visiting lakes and such.

Every email that he sends emphasizes that he is giving me something, asking me what I need… etc.

I stopped wanting anything.

I don’t want him to give me anything any more. I experience a feeling akin to hate or anger rising in me every time I think of him.

My regular driver is taking a break: she works at the New York State Fair for a few days, and I am driverless. I need stuff. But I won’t ask my student for help because of what I want to share with you.

If you are a perpetual and compulsive giver, you think that you are a good person, don’t you? Am I corre

Dark mood… what caused it and how I got out of it?

dark-mood-2Today I descended into the kind of dark mood I used to live in all the time. It’s been long coming. Even someone with my abilities, can be worn thin… and this is what’s been happening. I can only imagine … Continue reading

The levels of self awareness… and your financial and relationship troubles Part 2.

Yesterday I had a marathon call with a student. It went almost three hours.

She paid for 15 minutes… and we only ended it after almost three hours, because she needed to use the bathroom and walk the dog… I was still ready to continue.

What made we want to talk to her this long?

The answer is obvious to me, but maybe not that obvious to you, so let me explain.

In every conversation you have the opportunity to observe yourself, and catch yourself in some machine-like reaction. Every time it’s a gift.

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You live in a machine and you feed, unwittingly, the machine

Every single human (and to a certain degree lots of animals) has automatic ways of being, that could be called a machine, because their behavior is predictable, it is machine-like. Push a button and outcomes the same result, every time.
Every person I know is, more or less, an emotional wreck……

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Law of Attraction vs. Victim Mentality… Choose!

I want to address the phenomenon of the Law of Attraction vs. ” victim mentality ” in today’s post. Most of us interpret the Law of Attraction as a kind of ” Cosmic Soup Kitchen ” where you sit at a table, a waitperson comes and takes your order, and then you wait for your order to come. Sometimes your order comes, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes you get something totally different, something that you didn’t want. Some people’s order comes faster than yours, some others’ slower, or never. It all seems random, and capricious. Like the Universe is playing a game with you . Frustrating to most, happy and great for some. It seems like there are chosen people, or lucky, and something invisible marks YOU as the one who should never get ahead, never get what you want. You follow the instructions in The Secret, and still nothing. You can taste the sweet success as you are playing it in your mind’s eye, over and over again. Still, Nothing. I will turn to MY major source of wisdom, the Kabbalah, or the Book of Splendor (The Zohar). Why? Because it has an answer that I have seen working, all the time. The answer to this above dilemma is explained in the scene where Moses is leading the Israelites out of Egypt, they reach the shores of the Red Sea, and the Pharaoh’s army is in close pursuit, breathing down their neck. The Israelites drop on their knees, and cry out to The Creator. A voice comes out of nowhere and says: Why are you praying? Go into the water! Moses and the Israelites start walking into the water, that gets deeper and deeper, until it reaches their chin. Then they walk some more, and the waters split, and they can walk across to the other side.When the Pharaoh’s army gets there, the waters already seal themselves, and the Israelites are safe. Interesting story, but it is much more than a story. It is the key to activating the Law of Attraction: after you pleace your “order” in the “Cosmic Kitchen,” you need to get into action with certainty, that what you ordered is a done deal. That act of certainty and courage is what finally activates the Law. Waiting won’t. Now, I know that the missing piece is really, really, really, courage. Or better with capitized: Courage. I have been of the opinion, after coaching thousands, that the world suffers from courage deficiency. Courage deficiency is much like calcium deficiency… you cannot assimilate calcium if you don’t have Vitamin C, or if your stomach acid is too weak. And you will flush your calcium if you don’t have some other minerals… I can’t remember, maybe Magnesium? The same is with Courage. What is taking up the space that Courage should occupy? I say: Fear. I say: mostly unidentified Fear. Because, at least some of us, idle, not acting courageously, don’t know we are afraid. We seem to be reasonable, justified by the economy, by lack of time, lack of knowledge, whatever. If we knew we are afraid, we would at least have a choice about summoning courage… In my absolutely favorite movie, “Defending Your Life” our hero, played by Albert Brooks, accidentally activates Courage, by seeing that he will spend of the rest of his lives without Julia, played by Merryl Streep, and that is so unbearable, that his courage kicks in, maybe the first time in his life. But it changes how things go from there… he gets what he always wished for, the girl of his dreams. Now, we could all wait for a circumstance like that, or activate Courage by being a Powerful Manager ™ in your own life. Let’s return to the imagery I set up with Moses and the Red Sea: I had a realization today, that my MO (modus operandi) is such that I need to be thrown into the water, and THEN I “invent” swimming. Planning and then acting is not my MO. But unfortunately, for the most part, there is no one to throw you into the water. So you need to do it… So that is my / your next step, to become brilliant at that… Because going into the water is not an event: every day, when you wake up, you need to do it again. I call this being a Powerful Manager ™ in your life: put yourself into a situation where it is either swim or sink… and then start swimming. The style of swimming won’t matter: only that you swim. Your instinct will kick in, and you will swim and “take it home” whatever you were going after. The Universal Law of Attraction activates itself with that courageous act of throwing yourself into the water. What seems to be YOUR biggest stumbling block to activating The Law Of Attraction? Use the comment form to share…