I have been nurturing this sense that I can make a difference in the world forever… I even remember at age 3-4 thinking about that, so it must have come from before birth… Of course, life doesn’t seem to prove it. As a coach I may be able to change someone’s behavior, maybe even contribute to them being high-minded, but all in all, my life, from the point of view of making a difference, has been a failure
How Does Your Personality Effect YOUR Life?
How does your personality effect your life? Some 44 years ago, when I was in high school, and a celebrity of sorts, I was presented with a lesson that did not land until just today. Back in 1963, my friend, Pamacs an I, applied to a talent show. She sang, I sang, she could strum the guitar, I was an accomplished guitar player. We opted to sing two Neil Sedaka songs, in English, instead of my native Hungarian. We stayed in the competition for quite a few rounds, and became everyone’s favorite Bambi. Duo, as we called ourselves. I have seen photos taken from the Television show, and we looked sweet, fresh, and just adorable. Everyone who watched TV watched that show: that was the only TV station in Hungary, back in the olden days š Every Saturday, Pamacs showed up at our house, and we went dancing. She danced the whole evening, I danced maybe two songs. At the end of the night hordes of boys wanted to walk her home, no one cared about me. I was prettier than Pam. I was dumbfounded… Fast forward a few years… a few months ago Pam got in touch with me: the magic of the Internet. She now lives in London, married to a famous and absolutely smashing guy, step mother of an Oscar Best Actress winner, has a striving psychology counseling practice. I am not married (have never been), live alone, so you see, the story continued as it started. What is the difference between Pam and myself? If you guessed: her personality, you guessed it right. So that means that I am screwed, right? Now, I happen to agree with you, but we are both wrong. Potentially… Because in my new course, to be released soon, “Design Your Winning Personality” I have good news for you! You are not stuck with your personality, warts and all… You have built it, you can build another one. One that will get you what you want, the right guy/gal, the right job, the right connections, the right income, the right mood: happiness. Let me ask you a question: if you could change anything about yourself: what would you change? What do you think would happen different in your life, if you could successfully changed that? Please post a comment below. Looking forward to hearing your answers. xoxo Sophie PS: In my next post I will write about a real-life example, another friend of mineāsā¦ how she changed from a needy wallflower to a married, happy, successful architect. Tags: personality,+persona,+character,+nice+person , winning , persona , the+face+of+your+business , mindset , change
My Weight Story Looking Through Sexuality And Sexual Abuse
My Weight Story Through Sexuality And Sexual Abuse There are a few kinds of fatties out there. There is the glutton. He eats because it tastes good. He eats with great gusto, and enjoys every bit of it
My Story Through My Struggle With Weight And Being A Woman
My story through my struggle with weight and being a woman. Why both? Because I think they are connected. You can tell your life-story in many different ways. You can tell it through the people that were in your life, you can tell it through the vehicles you or your family owned, through the schools then the jobs you had
Your sphere of influence
I have lots of clients that struggle. One of the common characteristics I can find is the fact that they are trying to do something big, but are surrounded by small thinking people. Another one is that they have a small sphere of influence. And the third one is that they don’t know how to get more people to join their sphere of influence. You will never be able to do anything really big, if you are isolated, and the “echo” that you hear about you is from people who think you are small, insignificant or crazy. Many people go to seminars, they hang out with others there, but when they go home, they are back in their own backyard where they are considered just another wannabe. What is the solution? What is you ARE a wannabe, but have the potential to influence thousands? One great tool I found is twitter. And a great tool I found to build a list of followers is at , which is a free tool. If life worked like it is “supposed to”, it would build you a group of followers to the tune of millions, but of course life doesn’t work the way it is supposed to. But still, it is worth a try. All it takes is a minute or two…
Law of Attraction vs. Victim Mentality… Choose!
I want to address the phenomenon of the Law of Attraction vs. ” victim mentality ” in today’s post. Most of us interpret the Law of Attraction as a kind of ” Cosmic Soup Kitchen ” where you sit at a table, a waitperson comes and takes your order, and then you wait for your order to come. Sometimes your order comes, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes you get something totally different, something that you didnāt want. Some people’s order comes faster than yours, some others’ slower, or never. It all seems random, and capricious. Like the Universe is playing a game with you . Frustrating to most, happy and great for some. It seems like there are chosen people, or lucky, and something invisible marks YOU as the one who should never get ahead, never get what you want. You follow the instructions in The Secret, and still nothing. You can taste the sweet success as you are playing it in your mind’s eye, over and over again. Still, Nothing. I will turn to MY major source of wisdom, the Kabbalah, or the Book of Splendor (The Zohar). Why? Because it has an answer that I have seen working, all the time. The answer to this above dilemma is explained in the scene where Moses is leading the Israelites out of Egypt, they reach the shores of the Red Sea, and the Pharaoh’s army is in close pursuit, breathing down their neck. The Israelites drop on their knees, and cry out to The Creator. A voice comes out of nowhere and says: Why are you praying? Go into the water! Moses and the Israelites start walking into the water, that gets deeper and deeper, until it reaches their chin. Then they walk some more, and the waters split, and they can walk across to the other side.When the Pharaoh’s army gets there, the waters already seal themselves, and the Israelites are safe. Interesting story, but it is much more than a story. It is the key to activating the Law of Attraction: after you pleace your “order” in the “Cosmic Kitchen,” you need to get into action with certainty, that what you ordered is a done deal. That act of certainty and courage is what finally activates the Law. Waiting won’t. Now, I know that the missing piece is really, really, really, courage. Or better with capitized: Courage. I have been of the opinion, after coaching thousands, that the world suffers from courage deficiency. Courage deficiency is much like calcium deficiency… you cannot assimilate calcium if you don’t have Vitamin C, or if your stomach acid is too weak. And you will flush your calcium if you don’t have some other minerals… I can’t remember, maybe Magnesium? The same is with Courage. What is taking up the space that Courage should occupy? I say: Fear. I say: mostly unidentified Fear. Because, at least some of us, idle, not acting courageously, don’t know we are afraid. We seem to be reasonable, justified by the economy, by lack of time, lack of knowledge, whatever. If we knew we are afraid, we would at least have a choice about summoning courage… In my absolutely favorite movie, “Defending Your Life” our hero, played by Albert Brooks, accidentally activates Courage, by seeing that he will spend of the rest of his lives without Julia, played by Merryl Streep, and that is so unbearable, that his courage kicks in, maybe the first time in his life. But it changes how things go from there… he gets what he always wished for, the girl of his dreams. Now, we could all wait for a circumstance like that, or activate Courage by being a Powerful Manager ™ in your own life. Let’s return to the imagery I set up with Moses and the Red Sea: I had a realization today, that my MO (modus operandi) is such that I need to be thrown into the water, and THEN I “invent” swimming. Planning and then acting is not my MO. But unfortunately, for the most part, there is no one to throw you into the water. So you need to do it… So that is my / your next step, to become brilliant at that… Because going into the water is not an event: every day, when you wake up, you need to do it again. I call this being a Powerful Manager ™ in your life: put yourself into a situation where it is either swim or sink… and then start swimming. The style of swimming won’t matter: only that you swim. Your instinct will kick in, and you will swim and “take it home” whatever you were going after. The Universal Law of Attraction activates itself with that courageous act of throwing yourself into the water. What seems to be YOUR biggest stumbling block to activating The Law Of Attraction? Use the comment form to shareā¦
What can being organized and goal driven accomplish in 100 days
I am not sure. I can just share one thing: In 1987, I was still working as an architect, I participated in a program called “More Time Workshop” It was about 15 hours long. We learned very simple time and results management methods… so that wasn’t what made the difference. What made the difference, and I’ll tell you in detail, in a minute, what the difference was… so what made the difference is that we had to promise to do everything we learned for 30 days, no days off… It was simple: you had a short term, a middle range, and a long range goal. You needed to look at them every day and then create 5-7 actions for the day. Priorotize them, and then schedule them into your calendar. At the end of the day go over your actions and see if you have done them or not. If not, move them to the next day, and schedule them. Once a week look at a long list of “I always wanted to do this” items. I found that after 30 days it was a no brainer. It did take an extra hour on my schedule to do this stuff, but I slept better than ever I had more energy and enthusiasm than ever before Things got done. What I invented for myself at the course was to become a magazine publisher. It was completely outside of my reach… By the end of 1988 I was a magazine publisher, and I published my publication for 11 years with great success, and I loved it. I got this result because I had a method to my life. A 100-day challenge can do miracles, this is why I signed up to the 100-day challenge… You can join me in it, if you want, you can do so till September 30. Here is the link: If you sign up and email me, we could become a support group for each other… I can definitely help you! Are you coming? Success is not waiting for anyone.
There Is Something Wrong Hereā¦ The Human Virus
Human Being, perfect after its kind. This is a loose translation of what the bible says. When we look at ourselves and our lives, this is a nonsensical statement: we don’t feel perfect after our kind, we feel flawed, our lives don’t work, or at least not the way we want it, our bodies don’t work the way we envision perfection. So what’s up with that statement? How can it be true and so wrong at the same time
Who Were My Teachers in Transformation and Mindset… ?
Well, this could be a real long article, even a book. I wonāt go thereā¦ writing a book is way too long for my ADHD personality. But there is one teacher, who I admire, Colin Wilson (of āOutsiderā and ā The Mind Parasites ā fame, who wrote a book, ā
Do You Think You Can Tell WHAT You See?
Most of us are sure we can. We make decisions based on what we see, and our decisions and actions take us to live the life we live. Most of us live a life of quiet desperation.