Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…
… if you are willing to look at see what is so about you and your life.
The truth. Naked. Ugly. Often shameful.
Here is a correspondence I had with a client today:
She said: “I’m interested in changing my context since it’s part of what keeps me stuck.”
“… answering the questions: what am I doing? Why am I doing it?
Unless you have done the work of identifying what you have been doing, and why you have been doing it, no way you can shift the context. You cannot catch what you can’t see. And you cannot change what you can’t catch.”
To the degree you are able and willing to do that, to the same degree you can change your life. ((
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…
What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
I had an interesting unintended experiment this afternoon.
I have a loud burr coffee grinding machine.
I was ready to make some coffee (I drink cold dripped coffee) and ground the coffee beans while I was doing something else.
I found out that I am much better ignoring memes than ignoring loud noises. I could not hear myself thinking. I was making mistakes… I pondered what I was doing…
This gave me an opportunity to put myself in your shoes. What it must be like to be living in the constant jarring noise of the memes…
I am always looking for guidance from whatever is giving guidance. I am also looking for confirmation. My mind is a meaning making machine, like yours, and I catch myself looking for meaning in everything. I am like a GPS… in order for the GPS give you accurate actions, it needs to know where you […]
So I am sitting here… and this wave of hopelessness washes over me. I observe my mind that goes and tries on different memes to make sense of the feeling. “No matter what I do….” the whining voice says. “It’s hopeless… give it up!” says the authoritative voice. “You are worthless… who do you think … Continue reading “The mind is an answer finding, meaning making machine”
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When you ask someone: what is the opposite of fear, they say “courage”. But they are mistaken. Courage will never take you to the other side of fear… fear won’t disappear with courage. The opposite of fear is neither fear …
I am finding out that you’ve been thinking in terms of to-do lists to get things done. I find to-do lists daunting. The biggest problem with to-do lists is that it kills the spirit in things. The second biggest problem …
Humans are designed to be continuous learning machines. If you aren’t a learning machine, you have stopped being a human. New people to interact with, new ways to do things, new way to accomplish, new things to experience and interpret …
Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I had an interesting unintended experiment this afternoon.
So I am sitting here… and this wave of hopelessness washes over me. I observe my mind that goes and tries on different memes to make sense of the feeling. “No matter what I do….” the whining voice says. “It’s hopeless… give it up!” says the authoritative voice. “You are worthless… who do you think … Continue reading “The mind is an answer finding, meaning making machine”
The stuff heroes made of. Not ordinary. What was in The Secret movie and The Secret book is plain bullshit. Plain and simple. What we call ordinary is ugly. Being stopped by fear. Being stopped by doubts. Being stopped by laziness. Being stopped by anything. You get a great idea, or an invitation, and you … 
When you ask someone: what is the opposite of fear, they say “courage”. But they are mistaken. Courage will never take you to the other side of fear… fear won’t disappear with courage. The opposite of fear is neither fear … 
Humans are designed to be continuous learning machines. If you aren’t a learning machine, you have stopped being a human. New people to interact with, new ways to do things, new way to accomplish, new things to experience and interpret … 
Today I am tired. I am in and out of bed, I need my rest. Why am I so tired? I lead a session of the From Upset To Communication course/workshop, an experimental course with no curriculum, except my commitment … Continue reading “Silencing your mind-chatter. The counter-intuitive path. Teaching pigs to fly”