For those of you who have been making ever tightening circle around the secret, you may call it the truth, this is first a big let-down. A disappointment.
But when you look again, it gives you your life back, your ship is again under your command… you can become a finder instead of a seeker of the secret.
“The secret of growth” you’ve known but wished to be different is this: find something th
There is a huge misunderstanding that most of you are the victim of: thinking that you need to be ready to do something, that you need to get rid of fear or discomfort to do something.
One of my clients is dealing with an issue. To solve the issue, I asked him to talk to people in the same kind of business as his, to pick their brains what to do in the winters when there is no snow… i.e. there is no business, no revenue… and he still has to pay his employees.
He is afraid. I get that. But he is not doing wha
Most people are stuck… movement is not possible. It can be total or it can be partial.
To see where you are stuck is difficult, because the cause, the stuck part can be several layers deep.
A skilled coach or therapist may fail to find the linchpin issue, because in the normal course of a therapy, it is talking, the words, that are masking it.
One of my students in the Reclaim program has chosen to work with the idea of inspiring movies. Using movies to unstuck pe
As I am dealing with the issue of courage, I realized something that I had never quite seen before:
All the quotes, all the memes, all the nice sayings on the internet have one function only: to make you stay the same.
And by same I mean driven by ego, fear, cowardice, slothfulness, superiority, pretense… etc.
Now, that is a bold statement, after all those quotes and memes, and nice sayings, and even coaching claim and sound and look inspiring. And therein lies the mischief:
They suggest that you can just simple want it more, choose it, believe it and then you can have it… whatever the
I activate a new capacity. If you used it, a whole new world would open up for you… But for you nothing happened… But what just happened?
When I activate a new capacity, you have an opportunity. You either take it or you don’t.
Opportunities come with a count-down-timer… They expire. That’s why the phrase says: window of opportunity…
You continue doing what you have always done, exactly the way you have always done it.
What happens? The opportunity closes. That’s it. Good bye.
There are 160 capacities that you could, potentially, activate.
I wa
I have been re-reading Dan Millman’s The Life You Were Born To Live.
I don’t know why I am reading it, but here is what I have found that is worth mentioning:
Most people that complain about lack of opportunities would fumble the ball if they got it… Fumble means: drop the ball.
The illusion is that what is missing is an opportunity, the funding, the money to start something… is an illusion, and it is a very harmful illusion. It makes you look at blame… not yourself.
Similar to this: support is missing. If your parents, spouse, the society supported you… blah blah blah.
It’s all illusion… as in a lie. Bull crap.
There was an incident in my life that I go back to often.
In 1992 I had a big space at the back of my office, that was unused, but I pa
It is human nature to want to be smart. The feeling is: the smarter you are the better life will be.
But being smart from the mind isn’t very smart, except to the people who put the stuff in your mind.
In my readings about different cultures, the Chinese culture is a good example of that kind of smart. For hundreds and hundreds of years, the Chinese has been encouraged to repeat, not think.
For two years I had three Chinese students live next door: no thinking, no emotions, was my experience. If any emotions were felt by me, it was the emotions of visitors
What we go for is transformation.
Transformation is the magical seeming phenomenon when from one moment to the other, the world changes in front of our very eyes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1aEBv9k1SZY
Of course the world argues that you can do anything you put your mind to, but this is a lie. You can do anything that you have the DNA capacities to do.
Capacities can be interpreted as abilities, but there is only a correlation. Talent would be a closer approximation of what DNA capacity is.
I have participated in transformational education for the past 30 years. Mos
A new student of mine writes:
I think self trust is a big challenge for me, and building self trust is necessary as a foundation before I can trust others and build authentic relationships. I gain self trust by genuinely provide value and service to others. There is no short cut in gaining self trust and trust from others, and I need to build my skills and deliver my value solidly step by step, like building from the ground up to a skyscraper.
In my current choice in career path between the two opportunities, the important thing to consider is not what job it is, but rather which job allows me to use my skills to provide