I have been muscle testing, diligently, if the stories that sell products, courses, software, are facts or made-up likely stories.
A likely story is a lie.
We, marketers, are taught: facts tell, but stories sell.
And so every sales letter is one story of another.
I used to be a liar, because I didn’t think life was interesting enough, so I embellished it. I was caught, and it didn’t matter. I just kept making up interesting stories, mostly sob stories about myself.
I was selling myself… and because I didn’t think I had anything to offer, I lied.
Many of my coaching students are at a crucial point in their lives where unless something happens, they probably won’t move forward.
Fear, unclarity, self-centeredness, belligerence…
The main attitude is different. Not one person resembles another in what seems to block their path.
It’s the coach’s brilliance, creativity, insight that will either make a difference or not. What is clear is this: unless someone or something helps them through… they will stay this side of the great barrier.
Great responsibility, but I am up for it.
What is the capacity I need to be OK with this responsibility? It is self-trust. Self trust says: I can dea
Motto: Mentor: Someone whose hindsight can become your foresight
Remember who you are
In 1981 I got a letter from a man from Israel. He claimed to be a second cousin on my father’s side to me. He was coming to an educational conference in Hungary. He came with his wife.
We spent time together, they were staying with me, in my one-bedroom high-rise apartment in Budapest. He visited with every member of my family, and witnessed their contempt for me first hand.
He promised to be family to me if I decided to go to Israel.
One year later I packed a suitcase and left Hungary. illegally. It was winter in Hungary when I left, in fact it w
Yesterday I had an “energy healer” type of person on the Open Mic aka Talk to Me webinar.
Normally these webinars are really fun: we talk. Students ask questions, some great, some simple and to the point… they have fun, I have fun, and our relationship deepens.
Yesterday was a different kind of session: there was this “energy healer” guy… and he was into arguing, debating, talking about what he thinks, what he learned, blah blah blah.
He considered my webinar his forum to disseminate his wisdom. His learning. His take on the world.
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What I didn’t say in the last article about conscious awareness and discipline, is probably as important as what I did say.
Lots of people argue that your subconscious or your ego are more important than what you are aware of consciously, but that may not be true.
Your ego, your drive given to you by the genes and their selfish desire that is so often counter to your conscious desire: unless you know thine enemy, the enemy will always win.
Your decisions from the past that are now not in the conscious part of your brain: ditto. If you don’t know at least the most important decisions that have taken you to where you are… then they will continue to run the show, that is your life
I am reading one of my all time favorite books. Again. I was guided to read it again. As I have been guided to watch everything I watch, read everything I read.
Sometimes the key to the insight is on page 800 of a book, or in episode 60 of a Netflix series.
The tricks are: trust, don’t be in a hurry, don’t expect the “key” to be a direct answer, and once you have what you were needing, acknowledge it.
This book is full of clues for me. Clues for why you are living a life of quiet desperation, why you don’t live an interesting life.
A lot of why’s are answered here… why you can’t get well, why you are not happy, etc.
People are the highest value in the universe. Why? Because they are able to be all levels of values, the thinking mind (systemic), the extrinsic (create tools, cook food, provide pleasure), and the intrinsic.
You live, predominantly on one level, and value what is on that level most.
Depending on how closely your valuation matches the valuation that is “godly”, or the Original Design, you fulfill the purpose of being human.
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I am going to share, in this article, some of the judgmental sounding questions I ask when I try to get a full picture about someone who is asking for help.
As you probably don’t know, judgment comes from ego, from comparison. I am smart and you are stupid… that is judgment.
You are stupid isn’t judgment unless you feel something in your chest or throat as you say it. Unless it means something about you.
I feel nothing, or maybe sadness, when I ask these assessment question… that help me make sense out of the convoluted picture each person is.
So I measure your vibration… and it’s, for example, low.
When something isn’t working consider that it’s because there is something that you don’t know.
Whether the something that isn’t working is money, love, health, business, school… the answer is always “there is something you don’t know.”
The brilliance of this statement that turned a broke loser, a serial nebbich, Harv Eker into a multimillionaire T. Harv Eker. The brilliance is that because you don’t know what it is that you don’t know… you need to open yourself up to looking. At everything. And a lot… Expose yourself to seeing stuff. He did it, and he is now rich. This one sentence, this one stateme