You can lie to yourself, but you can’t lie to me or The culture of “good enough” fun

d5b9d-roosterOne of my students wrote to me this morning. He said:

Ok I finished my billing the other day but something I didn’t catch yesterday and this morning I got caught in my lie of not generating I relaxed. I now know I have to be more aware of this now.

Oh that… the hidden reason so many quit. The hidden reason why people quit before they get results. The hidden reason life is a series of flashes in the pan for most people.

It can be best illustrated with a story I have shared time and again, but it fits here perfectly.

The dog wakes up one morning a

The difference between feeling confident and being confident… or how you put your life in the hands of a liar

feelings-are-just-visitors-let-them-come-and-go-quote-1It’s Christmas Eve. Strong Southern wind… unusual noises… and bouts of wanting to weep. WTF? There is nothing wrong with my life, I am not connected to anyone in particular, and yet.

I muscle test if it is the Dark Side emotion transmission, and yes, it is…

Feelings come from who knows where, and yet, YOU are basing all your decisions on feelings. How utterly misguided is that?

If the feeling were: you can do it, you’d jump i

What are skills? I bet you have no clue… or you would be building them…

7-Skill-Building-Activities-for-your-5-Year-Old-Boy-2What are skills?

Don’t feel stupid, 99% of all people have no idea what skills are. This is one of the secrets that make people stuck in the dead end job they are in… not knowing what skills are, and not knowing what their skills are.

Skills are abilities, true and tried abilities you have used and used them well enough to succeed.

Skill means: you can do something. well enough.

Driving is a skill. Cooking is a skill, Shoppin

It is all about where the finger is pointing.

revolutionwordsActivism, campaigning

We all want change. The circumstances to change, others to change… We want people to change to what we deem the correct or good way to be.

We want reality to be different.

We put our attention to what’s wrong, in our view, what is missing, in our view.

In essence, we want the world to conform to our norms.

I am describing, to a more or less degree, humanity… though a segment of the population is very loud about it, very verbal about it: activists and campaigners.

The number one ingredient to become an

Taking things personally

dont-take-it-personally2The hardest thing to navigate, at least for me, is to take myself out of the center… Maybe because of my soul correction “Forget Thyself” but it comes back to make me miserable periodically.

I have been testy lately.

I have always wanted to be significant. Do significant things. Be admired… blah blah blah.

What I didn’t realize that like everything ego desire based, desire to receive for the self alone, it has a shadow side.

When you are significant, and someone doesn’t give you what you think they are supposed to… you are angry and miserable.

So this is what ha

The role of half truths in no evolution of the human race

bullshitAs I am dealing with the issue of courage, I realized something that I had never quite seen before:

All the quotes, all the memes, all the nice sayings on the internet have one function only: to make you stay the same.

And by same I mean driven by ego, fear, cowardice, slothfulness, superiority, pretense… etc.

Now, that is a bold statement, after all those quotes and memes, and nice sayings, and even coaching claim and sound and look inspiring. And therein lies the mischief:

They suggest that you can just simple want it more, choose it, believe it and then you can have it… whatever the

I activate a new capacity… will it change your life?

AYJG8J StopwatchI activate a new capacity. If you used it, a whole new world would open up for you… But for you nothing happened… But what just happened?

When I activate a new capacity, you have an opportunity. You either take it or you don’t.

Opportunities come with a count-down-timer… They expire. That’s why the phrase says: window of opportunity…

You continue doing what you have always done, exactly the way you have always done it.

What happens? The opportunity closes. That’s it. Good bye.

There are 160 capacities that you could, potentially, activate.

I wa

Magical Thinking and Activating DNA capacities

chinese-ritualAs I am asking questions that are probing, like “what displaces humility when someone doesn’t accept the capacity?” I am bumping up again and again to magical thinking.

When I look at the ethnic/cultural distribution of the people who block humility in favor of magical thinking, I find that

  1. spirit god cultures, like Native American and African, Shamanic cultures.
  2. Catholic, Roman Catholic and Eastern Orthodox alike
  3. Religious Jews
  4. People of the Indian subcontinent… where it is how it is… you are stuck there

In magical thinking, something or someone will mag

Your free will, your choice is mostly inside the question: shall I shrink or shall I grow?

finally-flyingYou have been choosing the shrink most of your life… and you ended up on my site with a meager number of capacities, hoping to get more out of life than you are getting.

You have been choosing, consistently to be a fat flightless turkey, in spite of your DNA that has flying as a capacity.

Yesterday I activated the capacity of Process for a handful of people… and it seems that this is a crucial capacity… Here are some interesting insights reading people’s notes who just got the Process capacity activated

T from England writes. She now has

How superiority blocks you from growing. Are you perceptive, astute?

not-perceptiveI do a lot of “work” that doesn’t look like work.

For example, asking the question: Is being perceptive a capacity?

It turns out that it is. It is on a scale of one to 100… very perceptive, somewhat perceptive, not perceptive.

Cats are not perceptive. Partially because their eyes are calibrated to only notice movement. A non-moving tasty bit of food, mouse, bug is like doesn’t exist for a cat. That is probably why they only eat food that stinks to my human nose… ugh. They can’t see it, can’t judge it from its look, color, etc.

Not perceptive.

So,