What you are, instead alive, is a walking dead, resigned, and settled for the little that, it seems, life has to offer. To you. You see others, seemingly happy, seemingly alive, and you feel regret, shame, and envy.
Your heart, where rain forests and colorful birds, and life used to live, is devastated. The lush rain forests gone, the birds gone, life: gone.
Your ups and downs are tiny, not like a roller coaster. They are about money, or noise, or that you are fat, or skinny, or that you are aging. Irrelevant circumstances.
Maybe it is about someone being sick, maybe dying… but that is also a circumstance.
What is the easiest method to shift someone’s state of being?
We already know. Children, when they cry because they hurt themselves, can be brought out of crying by directing their attention to something more interesting, more engaging.
I use it in almost every coaching conversation I have with people who are stuck in some unproductive state of being, like sadness, despair, maybe even resistance.
Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what’s blocking the way of getting there.
Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked… Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.
So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can’t see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life… without specifying what it is.
What happens to what you give to people, after you gave it to them?
We are told that we are what we eat… and it makes no sense… Because really what we are is what we can absorb from what we eat… including supplements.
Now, if that is so, then what happens to your pearls of wisdom, to your kindness, to your support, to your brilliance, to your gifts, to the value you sell people?
Before you point fingers at them, let’s examine how you receive pearls of wisdom… etc.
Intelligence is a state where you can see the sameness, where you see that life has no boundaries.
Of course it seems as if there were boundaries, but it’s an illusion… cells have walls, but it is permeable, you have skin, but it is permeable, you are a human, but you are just like everything else, built of cells, like most every living being, have genes, like every living being, and your body performs chemical miracles, every living moment.
I am often asked to map out the path to raising your vibration, raising your consciousness, and become a full fledged human being.
The first step to any journey is to find out where you are at now.
As I muscle test people’s vibration… as I am merging my senses with theirs, feeling their feelings, I feel their overall relationship to life. I feel it stronger than they feel it… like a tool that puts your heartbeat on loudspeaker.
Most people give me feedback, saying “spot on” if they are from England, and then follow my first steps to feel better.
The single reason most people don’t want to work with me is this: I will rob them (attempt to) of their sob story. ((Sob story: a repeating way to be miserable, to lose out on life, to be beaten down))
What’s a sob story?
Well, everybody has one… It was born after an incident in early childhood.
Something happened, and you made a decision about yourself, about the world, about your mother.
Some people have interlocking decisions, making the sob story as strong as a Greek myth.
As long as your sob story is intact, you lie through your life to mai
What you are, instead alive, is a walking dead, resigned, and settled for the little that, it seems, life has to offer. To you. You see others, seemingly happy, seemingly alive, and you feel regret, shame, and envy.
Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what’s blocking the way of getting there.
Few people are intelligent.
The allure to jump into doing is very strong. Or alternatively waiting… and doing nothing.
