I spend some of my “entertainment credits” to shore up my cultural understanding of the country I live in, the United States. It is still study… it is still doing my work. I read books you had to read in … Continue reading “Weird is the necessary ingredient to getting a cult following”
My health number is at 60%. I am not healthy. Yet. I know you expect me to be healthy, given that I give you health advice. But what qualifies me to give health advice is not my current number. It’s … Continue reading
Most of the things I find out were in front of me, in plain sight, but I could not see it.
As I am going deeper and deeper into teaching people to feel their feelings, so they can return to the Tree of Life, I am on uncharted territory. I encounter stuff that has always been there… and in this new context it hits me funny… weird… illogical… counter intuitive: to me.
Whenever I see things from the level I am, most of the things I see are things I have never had, and therefore they are new to me. Unfamiliar… Alien.
Such is the thing i want to write now: the delusion that you need to meet everyone’s expectation of you.
That it is your duty to be good enough for everyone, fast enough, smart enough, deep enough, pretty enou
I have been saying in every article now that the 13th floor is a dynamic system.
Why dynamic? Because the feelings have direction, content, opinion… and they interact, pull, push, stop you…
Moving, changing, pulsing, etc.
Humans are not simple machines, and yet: every complicated machine is made up of many simple machines… and so are you. The more you allow the machine to inform you, the more fulfilling, the smoother, the more enjoyable life becomes, with you in the driver’s seat.
You know I am corresponding with the creator of the books, Feeli
This is a hypothesis that will need to be confirmed with tests. I could also say: it’s a hunch.
And my hunch is that the less trustworthy you are the less trust you have. Period.
Hah, but trust, as a verb, is transitive.
So let’s see what COULD you trust, if you did:
Not surprisingly, I hope, the difference between homo sapiens (thinking man) and Human Being is this elusive “thing”: beingness.
It is a whole different ball of
I love learning. Even if the learning is preceded, or a result of some bad experience… even if it is pain…
You learn nothing from pleasant, or good, or happy.
You can only learn from bad, mistakes, wrong steps, screw-ups, or failures.
If you are willing. If you are not willing, then you’ll never learn. And if the glove doesn’t fit… don’t wear it.
I talked to two clients yesterday.
I asked one how he was feeling. I already knew because I had run his numbers, but I was curious how he felt about how he felt.
To my surprise he went into his memory and started to hee and haw. WTF? he looked good, his color, his skin tone, his eyes… Now, what if someone says something about you, or something that you like, find important, says something that conflicts with what you think about yourself, your self-image? Your “I” you consider your Self. (it isn’t… by the way) Your experience is that you are devalued. ((devaluation. means The decrease in value of one currency in relation to another, usually by action of the government. When a currency is devalued, it buys less in foreign markets.)) The lower your vibration, the more it hurts. And when someone puts dow Our language is so corrupt, it is hard to find a person who means what they say… I mean the words. You’ll see what meeting others’ expectation is… Not what’s on the illustrations… 🙁 The most willfully ignored need, in my experience, is the need to meet others’ expectation. What prevents you from honoring that need is a misunderstanding. Or we could say: the mis-weighing bias. All biases are misunderstanding how things work, shortcuts that give you a different result than what you expected. In not honoring but ignoring this need, your chances for success, your chances for love, for self-expression, for happiness are so greatly diminishe It was full today. Everyone was in post-holiday mode, except a few people. I had a conversation with a woman, and had a chance to see how certain words, how certain way of saying what I have been saying lands. I shared my story, how I escaped becoming mediocre like most people. I said no to coasting with people in my life. What is coasting? Coasting is pending time with people doing things you do not find rewarding, but they are doing it, a
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The pain of being devalued…
We all have a need to fulfill others expectations of us, and also some of us have the need to fulfill our own expectations of ourselves. Why is the “need to meet others’ expectation” so important, and why it’s a mistake to not honor it?
And how it doesn’t mean to please everybody, or even one person. You’ll see… Misweighing Bias… are you penny wise and dollar foolish?
It’s Tuesday and I just got back from my exercise class.