I am sick to my stomach… Why? Because people are unaware of the balance of “power” inside them… because people are trying to “give” from ego, thinking they are spreading positive energy in the world. I am reading a book … Continue reading → Related Posts: How do you generate positive energy… and how can […]
Quantum Physics says: reality is what you believe it to be… And belief is a choice
Sometimes I get really lucky. And if I am ready, prepared, open, and eager for the gift, I can get it, harvest it, and life becomes brighter, by a lot. Clearer… by a lot.
This is what happened to me this morning.
I got up at 5:20. The other option was to sleep another hour and a half… and oversleep… So I got up. Better sleep less than more (read my Depression article to see why.)
Chilly morning… sweater and pants, big glass of Energized Water… I am ready for my email… And no, I don’t stretch, I don’t exercise, I don’t meditate… I go to my email and connect. Connect to All-of-it and to my people.
The first email is from a woman who is disappointed in me because I didn’t provide
The biggest reason you are stuck… on a plateau or in a ditch, but stuck nevertheless
Regardless of what you do, how you do it, how good or bad your life is… you are always stuck… Stuck in some deep bad place, or stuck on a plateau… stuck is stuck.
So learning what keeps you stuck and how to unstuck yourself, at will, is one of the most important things you can do… and the sooner the better. Because being stuck is not fun.
Cognitive biases, those knee jerk reaction tiny pieces of automatic responses, are at the root of your misery.
I don’t know if you can recognize this situation, but my hunch is: you should. Your attention is divided. Your intentions are divided. And NOTHING gets done. It should be a daily concern… if it is not, you are probably in a rut. What is a rut? A trench… you can either go forward or you can go backwards… Or stand still, hoping that it will give you a sense of being alive. Whenever you add a new task, you have to go through this state: if you don’t, then you didn’t mean to add the task.
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Fear, unclarity, self-centeredness, belligerence… The main attitude is different. Not one person resembles another in what seems to block their path. It’s the coach’s brilliance, creativity, insight that will either make a difference or not. What is clear is this: unless someone or something helps them through… they will stay this side of the great barrier. Great responsibility, but I am up for it. What is the capacity I need to be OK with this responsibility? It is self-trust. Self trust says: I can dea talking points: how do you know what skills to build? reading books
volunteering providing services, small services online/offline through craigslist, fiverr Article You may have no skills that you know of that would get you a job in the next profession… But you may have some skills… or why would you want to go that way? After all, the rule of thumb is: go with your strengths… and if you have strengths, you know you have them, because you’ve been using them. Here is how I did it. The time was 1988 and I was an architect. And that opportunity closed for me… I did a skill inventory, and found that all my skills at that point were putting ink on paper… writing, drawing, designing… and communicating. With people. Graphics, design, text, communicating… I decided that the best match was publisher, although I had no idea what I would want to say… Magazine publishing. I was unemployed, so I spent my time training myself… designing ads, writing ads, and I even apprenticed with a small printer so I had some idea what printing entails. Then I sent out two resumes to small local pennysavers… that I saw all the time in the supermarket. One answered, and said that the only job available is advertising sales. That I would get someone to train me… I said OK… The woman who came to train me (I didn’t have any transportation) gave me a script and went out with me to a few stores to sell advertising. Next day she went and covered all the stores I could have been able to walk in and sold everyone she could… Dog eat dog is the advertising world. So I called the other publisher. I told him I sold five ads on my first day… He met me and hired me, even gave me a beat up car to use, so that I can get around and do the job. I was grateful. I worked 80 hours or more a week. I actively participated on Friday’s meetings when every salesperson brought in what they sold. After two weeks I took over that part of the job, laying out the magazine for Saturday printing. I even delivered all the magazines to the stores in my sales area. I busted my ass. I built enough relationships with customers, typesetters, printers that after 14 months, when the owner felt threatened and kicked me out, I could start, overnight, my own magazine. After that fateful meeting, when I got kicked out, I called the typesetter, called the printer, and asked for credit for one issue. I got it. I stayed up all night, and next day at 4 pm my own magazine was in the street. It was the beginning of a wonderful eleven year run. talking points: how do you know what skills to build? reading books
volunteering providing services, small services online/offline through craigslist, fiverr Article You may have no skills that you know of that would get you a job in the next profession… But you may have some skills… or why would you want to go that way? After all, the rule of thumb is: go with your strengths… and if you have strengths, you know you have them, because you’ve been using them. Here is how I did it. The time was 1988 and I was an architect. And that opportunity closed for me… I did a skill inventory, and found that all my skills at that point were putting ink on paper… writing, drawing, designing… and communicating. With people. Graphics, design, text, communicating… I decided that the best match was publisher, although I had no idea what I would want to say… Magazine publishing. I was unemployed, so I spent my time training myself… designing ads, writing ads, and I even apprenticed with a small printer so I had some idea what printing entails. Then I sent out two resumes to small local pennysavers… that I saw all the time in the supermarket. One answered, and said that the only job available is advertising sales. That I would get someone to train me… I said OK… The woman who came to train me (I didn’t have any transportation) gave me a script and went out with me to a few stores to sell advertising. Next day she went and covered all the stores I could have been able to walk in and sold everyone she could… Dog eat dog is the advertising world. So I called the other publisher. I told him I sold five ads on my first day… He met me and hired me, even gave me a beat up car to use, so that I can get around and do the job. I was grateful. I worked 80 hours or more a week. I actively participated on Friday’s meetings when every salesperson brought in what they sold. After two weeks I took over that part of the job, laying out the magazine for Saturday printing. I even delivered all the magazines to the stores in my sales area. I busted my ass. I built enough relationships with customers, typesetters, printers that after 14 months, when the owner felt threatened and kicked me out, I could start, overnight, my own magazine. After that fateful meeting, when I got kicked out, I called the typesetter, called the printer, and asked for credit for one issue. I got it. I stayed up all night, and next day at 4 pm my own magazine was in the street. It was the beginning of a wonderful eleven year run. The way scientists, medical practitioners, diet-cults, pharmaceutical companies work is called linear reductionism… (( noun A cognitive bias refers to a systematic pat the idea one has of one’s abilities, appearance, and personality. Do you know that people see you differently than you see yourself? And both you and other people see you differently than you actually are. You may see yourself worse or better or just plain different than you really are… and so do others. Your life would work better if the two views were closer. You’d h I just finished reading 1984, Orwell’s novel. I am not an American, so I never even heard about it until about 1984… In Hungary it is not a recommended reading. It was a traumatic experience for me, much like Brave New World was back in 1977 when I first read it. Much soul searching followed, I am not quite done with the soul searching. I mentioned to my driver that I read the book… and from her response, I think I was lucky: the best way to make an important b
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When you decide to do something for yourself… to grow…
Between two chairs I find myself fallen and sitting on the floor
Self trust… a linchpin capacity… or how do you develop yourself to be able to move forward?
Many of my coaching students are at a crucial point in their lives where unless something happens, they probably won’t move forward. 003 What does it take to change into a new career or The art of changing direction and succeed
003_what-does-it-take-to change-into-a-new-careerhow do you go from one profession to another? having a vague idea is not enough!
how can you build skills if that is not part of your job?
What other than skills do you need?
How do you choose the next step if what you are doing in the present isn’t it… but you have no experience in the next profession, the next adventure? What does it take to change into a new career or The art of changing direction and succeed
003_what-does-it-take-to change-into-a-new-careerhow do you go from one profession to another? having a vague idea is not enough!
how can you build skills if that is not part of your job?
What other than skills do you need?
How do you choose the next step if what you are doing in the present isn’t it… but you have no experience in the next profession, the next adventure? Self-image: unless you see yourself doing it… you won’t do it.
Sounds simple, right? self-image means: how you see yourself… but nothing internal is as simple and as straight as that?
reductionism
[ri-duhk-shuh-niz-uh m]
1.
the theory that every complex phenomenon, especially in biology or psychology, can be explained by analyzing the simplest, most basic physical mechanisms that are in operation during the phenomenon.
2.
the practice of simplifying a complex idea, issue, condition, or the like, especially to the point of minimizing, obscuring, or distorting it.
)) and it is a cognitive bias. How do you see yourself? how accurate is your self-image?
The inner view and the outer view of who you are are vastly different. Your chances for success, love, happiness depend on the accuracy of your self-image. ((self-im·age
noun
noun: self-image; plural noun: self-images
“sickness is an affront to one’s self-image and dignity”)) I looked what is more important to me than life itself…
Why do I write? Who do I write for? What is important to me? These are the questions are occupying my thoughts…