Humans are unpredictable, a mystery, and therefore have given rise to many many theories.
The way humans examine things to make sense of them is by taking them apart. It works relative well with people, but with a living thing, it is not that effective.
So humans make up parts and elements… and some seem to work to one degree or another, but nothing quite works perfectly.
The mechanical models medical “sciences” use doesn’t work well at all… we have more diseases than before…
The psychological models of ego, and subconscious, and beliefs, and such don’t work well either… How do we know? Because the results are temporary, or there are no results. Life is simple… The results are the shadow… showing that the method worked or didn’t work.
There are a few models that work, somewhat, transactional analysis is one of them.
Then there is the “ontological” model of the Wisdom Course (Landmark education) of the fields
The model of the racket, strong suit, etc… of the main branch of Landmark Education
The Dianetics’ theory of … whatever they call the first incident.
I have been working, successfully, with the model given by the Hungarian engineer, Margoczi… plus all the stuff I learned in many of my courses, workshops in the past 35 years.
I have “dabbled” in all the theories before, and have more than cursory knowledge of them.
I am revisiting Transactional Analysis, because it has definite parts that aren’t covered by other methods of revealing the unconscious, the invisible: scripts, story line, contracts, strokes, etc.
I found two old-old videos of Eric Berne MD being interviewed about his method… TA as it was lovingly called.
I have explored the games, I have tried to work with the fairy tales, but not seriously.
I am now going to have one or two free webinars to look at the fairy tale part of his method… If it is useful… in causing you to behave mostly like an adult, instead of being script driven, child driven, parent driven, memes driven.
One of my favorite expressions “innovate yourself out of a problem” coined by Jeff Bezos is a typical adult saying. You can’t do it unless you have access to your adult capacities… this measure is part of your Starting Point Measurements, by the way. And having access doesn’t mean you use them either… I often find myself doing magical thinking, wishing, bemoaning… none of them are part of the adult’s tool box… lol.
I’ll screen who can participate… because this isn’t meant to be the first initiation to my methodology, for free.
But if I know you, and you are puzzled why your life goes the way it goes, contact me. Let’s have a conversation.
Of all the elements of Transactional Analysis, the fairy tale script is the deepest… and if interpreted correctly (not easy!) the most therapeutic.
By therapeutic I mean freeing.
If you look at your life, and you look honestly and carefully, you will see or feel that you are limited. The limitations are like thin threads that pull you, push you, hold you back and hold you down.
Most of those can be brought to light by listening to The Voices… by distinguishing the words of the memes. But many of you feel like they are YOUR voice… even though they aren’t. And those are probably the most damaging to your freedom, easy, and grace… like those bars I pasted on the top of the party scene in one of my collages. Or the bear climbing on the tallest tree to avoid people.
So to make me better at deciphering the script, deciphering the fairy tale… I need to do some practice webinars, before I bring it (or not) to my paying students in the Playground.
And here is another video, same time, same people, just looking at Transactional Analysis and the Games people play differently.
I’ll do these webinars on Friday, January 5 and Friday January 12… I haven’t decided on the hour yet.
If you want me to consider you, please send me a communication. Playground, Reclaim participants can just register, I’ll send you a link when the calls are set up.
How to prepare? The fairy tale that most pulls on your heartstrings is probably a good way to start.
Mine is about the old woman who takes home a fawn with broken leg to heal her. And when she is good and ready, allows her to return to where she belongs.
The intense yearning to be cared for and the even more intense yearning to do what I am meant to do… away from the restrictions created by belonging. That is MY script.
Don’t expect me to know all fairy tales, so if you come, re-read the fairy tale you suspect is your script, and either send it to me, giving me enough time to read it, or bring it so we can read it.
It may be, like in my case, a fairy tale in the different language. Bring a good translation. Don’t try to wing it! Preparation is a sign of respect… if you are disrespectful you won’t get to have your script analyzed.
One more thing: if you don’t watch the videos… then you can’t come to the call… because you are not willing to do your part… simple enough?
Read the original article: The puzzle that is called “human”. Your theory matters…