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We provide detailed resources like photos, articles, videos and links that may be of good use for those who want to make a more detailed study about it.I got a thank you note today.

Your Personality: your code of behavior put together

This note reads

Today was a huge success. I did not even recognize myself. I was attempting to have a conversation with my sister when she became extremely aggressive upon trying to control me and failing. She was in my face yelling and pacing around in circles. I remained calm and did not attempt to defend myself as the lies flew at me. I was able to stick to the subject and not accuse. At this point her husband jumped in and tried to intimidate me, pointing his finger in my face and yelling. They both looked like mad men ganging up on me. I did not raise my voice or get emotional. This is the first time in my life I had no fear in a confrontational situation and it felt GREAT! To be honest I think it frightened my sister & her husband. They did not know what to think of me, I have had many weaknesses in the past but now I am strong.

This person, let’s call her Josephine (not her real name) was given up for adoption at an early age. A loving couple with two children over 10, adopted her.

The birth children never accepted her as a real sister. That shaped her personality.

In her mind, in her thinking, in her words, she was abandoned by her mother. She put together a strategy of being meek, never speaking up for herself, always seeking approval, taking care of everyone, etc. to prevent the “inevitable”, being put out, cast out, not wanted…

She is a bright and sprightly 50 year old today, alas with children that disapprove of her, with a nasty divorce behind her. The ex never paid a dime child support. You see personality: willing to be abused, disapproved of, worthless, right?

She could have continued living this movie, except the soul has been banging, nudging her, so she decided to become her own person.

She got “thought shifted” by Pam Ragland and started to work with me.

We started with her automatic statement of “being abandoned by the mother” and changed it to “her mother loved her so much she wanted her to have a better life she herself could provide her”.

We did not stop there (most methodologies do!) and started to “build legs” to this (we create actions and behaviors and attitudes consistent with that new being, so that it can become a sequel to one’s movie, unlike the original script).

The purpose is that this new idea can have a life of its own, independent of her saying so. A rounded “being”, with matching look, feel, actions, attitudes, and history. A personality has all that!

So we went, and created new ways of being, new attitudes and new behaviors in different, specific to her, situations. Ways of being, attitudes, and behaviors that are “informed by” and based upon this new story, that she had a loving mother who wanted the best for her, and she was indeed lucky, her new parents loved her dearly.

We invented a new way to behave when her children chided her for her view of the world. Instead of choosing to be wrong, or making them wrong for thinking differently, she learned to say simply: “I understand you have a different point of view from mine. That does not make you wrong, or doesn’t make you right. We just have a different point of view”

We invented a new way to behave with her siblings, especially her sister. Earlier this year their mother died and left a large inheritance equally distributed among the three children, natural or adopted. The natural daughter is refusing to release Josephine’s inheritance. She is feverishly trying to spend the money to not have to give any money to the adopted one.

The note said it better than I could ever say: Josephine stood up to her sister and brother in law, and will do whatever she needs to do to get the money her parents left for her.

Inconsistent with the early story? You betcha! That is the point! Create a new personality and have your future be by your choosing.

 

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